Bec090 Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 My boyfriend and I both met 2 years ago and have been dating for a year and a half. He is from NSW and I am from Victoria, Australia. We instantly fell in love the moment we met even though I'd never have previously considered dating a younger guy. I'm close to 30yo and he is 23, our values, goals and beliefs aligned. My partner moved here for me 6 months ago but has now decided to break things off to move back home with his family and friends. My life in Victoria is wonderful. I've been living in my new house for two years now and am extremely close with my family spending time with them a few times a week. I have a stable job and have recently been promoted so life for me here is very steady and secure. My partner comes from a broken family with some traumatic childhood experiences. He was renting at the time he moved here with me and was in and out of a few unsecure jobs with little savings. He was able to ship his entire life in the car and make his way here in an 8 hour car ride. This was initially how we made the decision for him to move here. When he moved he found a job quite easily close to home and made new friends there. He was able to spend time with these friends outside of work and have his own life here. He got along really well with my family. He adored them and they him. He has a few cousins living in Victoria that he would catch up with and is independent enough to do things without me. We often did dinners together and explored my town and all that it had to offer. Living together initially was great. But as months passed his missing home became more and more aparent and was causing him a lot of stress and anxiety. He missed the warmer weather, his friends and family. He missed the familiarity of streets and places and often spoke about not feeling at home here. Now he has moved back home to his father's place in the hope that he may be able to save and get his own property back home. He has asked me to move there and give us another shot in his hometown. So now I'm stuck. And completely devastated as he was someone I really connected with like no other and we did discuss plans to get married. This was quite serious. I've had people tell me that I should move for him if he's given it a go here. My heart says yes but everything in my brain is flashing red. I worry that if I move there I'm leaving my wonderful life for one with so many insecurities and red flags. if we were to have a family of our own one day there would be little to no support for us there vs here. I would also be starting from scratch career wise and would miss family events at home which happen weekly. I'm so torn because I don't want to lose him and he still messages telling me he loves and misses me. We are both devastated things ended. What should I do?? Link to comment
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