Eggobego Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 A month ago I found that something fishy was going on with my boyfriend and I decided to get on his skype. I know this is bad, but I ended up finding out that he has been lying to me and I guess cheating on me. He's been messaging other girls saying how they were beautiful, gorgeous, precious and so on. He was even camming them and all and acting dirty as well. This really upset me, but I acted like all was good because he would get extremely mad at me if I told him I got on his skype. A few days later I found out that he has been avoiding me. Each time he talks to those girls on skype, he stays up until 1 am talking to them and avoiding sleep just to be able to talk to them. When it comes to talking to me, he tells me he's too tired and wants to go to bed so he leaves. He's been telling me this for months now and he goes to bed each time we are in the middle of talking. It really sucks because I think that he's getting bored of me, but I still love him very much. He talks to these girls everyday and seems much more interested in them, but he never leaves me a message or anything because he's too busy talking to them. He even told me one time that he was going to bed, but I got on his skype afterwards and saw him talk to one of the girls. He lied to me so he could stop talking to me. We got in a fight before because I didn't trust him one time, but he got really mad at me and told me how he found it unfair that I don't trust him. How do I confront him about this without him getting mad? I mean he has every right to be at me for getting on his skype, but I don't want to be dating some cheater and I'm really tired of being upset over this. I lose sleep because of it and I just want it to stop. He means so much to me. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 So you put up with this why? I'd tell him to hit the road. Link to comment
Jibralta Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 I mean he has every right to be at me for getting on his skype, but I don't want to be dating some cheater and I'm really tired of being upset over this. Then you need to break up with him because he is a cheater. NOTHING you do will change that. Link to comment
HannahDD Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 Soo I think that get on someone skype is wrong, BUT if you found out that he's lying and cheating on you, he's more wrong than you, so he has no right to get mad. Unfortunately, he'll probably get mad anyway, but HE's the wrong one. Link to comment
Eggobego Posted April 30, 2017 Author Share Posted April 30, 2017 So I should just tell him I got on his skype and dump his ass for lying? Link to comment
Eggobego Posted April 30, 2017 Author Share Posted April 30, 2017 Then you need to break up with him because he is a cheater. NOTHING you do will change that. Good point. I just don't know how to approach the subject. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 This really upset me, but I acted like all was good because he would get extremely mad at me if I told him I got on his skype. Does he support you or something and that is why you wouldn't just up and leave a guy that is actively cheating on you and lying to your face? I can't think of any other reason why an independent woman who was confident and knew that she could do better then to stay with a d-bag, would stay. but I don't want to be dating some cheater Then why in heavens name are you? He IS A CHEATER. Link to comment
Eggobego Posted April 30, 2017 Author Share Posted April 30, 2017 Soo I think that get on someone skype is wrong, BUT if you found out that he's lying and cheating on you, he's more wrong than you, so he has no right to get mad. Unfortunately, he'll probably get mad anyway, but HE's the wrong one. Yeah he will get mad, but I'm just tempted to ask him if I'm really the only girl he loves and if he says yes, then I might just show screenshots of him talking to the girls and ask why he lied to me. Lmao. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 Yeah he will get mad, but I'm just tempted to ask him if I'm really the only girl he loves and if he says yes, then I might just show screenshots of him talking to the girls and ask why he lied to me. Lmao. Why bother? Just get yourself out of there and tell him why you are. You are trying to change him into a good partner when he is not one and he never will be. That says a lot about where your lack of love of self. Link to comment
Jibralta Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 So I should just tell him I got on his skype and dump his ass for lying? That's what I would do. Public opinion be damned. Link to comment
Eggobego Posted April 30, 2017 Author Share Posted April 30, 2017 Does he support you or something and that is why you wouldn't just up and leave a guy that is actively cheating on you and lying to your face? I can't think of any other reason why an independent woman who was confident and knew that she could do better then to stay with a d-bag, would stay. He's the best boyfriend I ever had really. He treated me just right and I felt so happy with him because I literally felt like a queen. Then I had the terrible idea of going on his skype because I smelt something fishy from him and yeah that happened. Link to comment
Eggobego Posted April 30, 2017 Author Share Posted April 30, 2017 Why bother? Just get yourself out of there and tell him why you are. You are trying to change him into a good partner when he is not one and he never will be. That says a lot about where your lack of love of self. Yeah. I'm ready to get a big wave of him getting super pissed at me, but oh well. Either way he just told me he's tired so he went to sleep meaning that I won't even be talking to him today. Typical. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 Yeah. I'm ready to get a big wave of him getting super pissed at me, but oh well. Either way he just told me he's tired so he went to sleep meaning that I won't even be talking to him today. Typical.You're not getting it. He doesn't deserve an explanation of why you are leaving. He knows he's cheating on you so he will know why you have left him. While he is sleeping is the perfect time for you to get your stuff together and get out of there. Leave him a note telling him that you know what he's been doing while you are asleep and you're done. Do not take him back if he begs... he's never going to give up jerking off to cam 'models' unless he gets therapy for what is more likely then not, a sex addiction. He's the best boyfriend I ever had really. He treated me just right and I felt so happy with him because I literally felt like a queen. Then I had the terrible idea of going on his skype because I smelt something fishy from him and yeah that happened. While you are single perhaps getting some of your own therapy is in order if you think a guy that has shown you that he cannot remain faithful is "the best boyfriend you've ever had" You need help with your picker and therapy or a good life coach can guide you into figuring out and repairing why you pick the guys you have. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 Yeah he will get mad, but I'm just tempted to ask him if I'm really the only girl he loves and if he says yes, then I might just show screenshots of him talking to the girls and ask why he lied to me. Lmao. Good grief! End it, and be done! Why do you owe him an explanation? Time to locate your self respect! You should have ended it when you found out he cheated!!!! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 You're picking crappy men, if this is the best you've had! Link to comment
katrina1980 Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 Good grief! End it, and be done! Why do you owe him an explanation? Time to locate your self respect! You should have ended it when you found out he cheated!!!! ^^This!! It is absurd that you (1) believe he loves you, (2) believes he has any respect for you, (3) believe you can somehow work this out and that he will change. If he does change, I mean no disrespect, but it won't be with you. It will be with a woman who respects herself and who would never tolerate this nonsense. And who gives an eff that you will get a "wave" of him getting super pissed at you? I mean seriously? YOU need to be super pissed at him! And you let him know that by dumping his cheating ass TODAY, and trust me I am not one to usually label guys like that but in this case I can't help myself, he is the worst of the worst This has been said a zillion times on this forum, but WE TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US. Man, if this were me, he would be so out the door like three months ago when you found out. What story are you telling yourself that makes his behavior acceptable and okay? Such that you haven't kicked his arse to the curb yet? Sorry this was harsh, but I am just appalled that you're still there wanting to work this out. He sounds horrible. Link to comment
used2blue Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 A month ago I found that something fishy was going on with my boyfriend and I decided to get on his skype. I know this is bad, but I ended up finding out that he has been lying to me and I guess cheating on me. He's been messaging other girls saying how they were beautiful, gorgeous, precious and so on. He was even camming them and all and acting dirty as well. This really upset me, but I acted like all was good because he would get extremely mad at me if I told him I got on his skype. A few days later I found out that he has been avoiding me. Each time he talks to those girls on skype, he stays up until 1 am talking to them and avoiding sleep just to be able to talk to them. When it comes to talking to me, he tells me he's too tired and wants to go to bed so he leaves. He's been telling me this for months now and he goes to bed each time we are in the middle of talking. It really sucks because I think that he's getting bored of me, but I still love him very much. He talks to these girls everyday and seems much more interested in them, but he never leaves me a message or anything because he's too busy talking to them. He even told me one time that he was going to bed, but I got on his skype afterwards and saw him talk to one of the girls. He lied to me so he could stop talking to me. We got in a fight before because I didn't trust him one time, but he got really mad at me and told me how he found it unfair that I don't trust him. How do I confront him about this without him getting mad? I mean he has every right to be at me for getting on his skype, but I don't want to be dating some cheater and I'm really tired of being upset over this. I lose sleep because of it and I just want it to stop. He means so much to me. His anger is because he is found out. It is an attempt to squelch you. These are his actions and not yours. He is a cheat, liar, and not committed to a relationship. He has given no reason to trust him. He never earned it back. What you are seeing is proof of not drawing a line on what you find acceptable and not acceptable. Accepting any of it will condone his actions and allow it to continue. You have a right to your feelings and actions on this. Respect yourself and tell him your true feelings, needs, and line in the sand. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 I'm not sure why you're looking for the right words to say to him. I would simply tell him that you know he's cheating, and you're done. Don't allow yourself to back down, as you have all the proof you need. Set your standards at a higher level, and send him packing... Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 How long have you been dating? There's no way to confront him without his getting angry because he knows it will back you off and he can turn it on your snooping and distrust rather than the issue of sex cams. Are you dating exclusively? He was even camming them and all and acting dirty as well. How do I confront him about this without him getting mad? I mean he has every right to be at me for getting on his skype, but I don't want to be dating some cheater and I'm really tired of being upset over this. He means so much to me. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 If this is the best boyfriend you've ever had, I shudder to think what your other boyfriends did. Why are you worried about HIM getting mad at you? Why aren't YOU mad??? Link to comment
Eggobego Posted April 30, 2017 Author Share Posted April 30, 2017 To be honest, I did it. I sent everything and asked him why. He never replied yet, but I'm waiting at the moment. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 To be honest, I did it. I sent everything and asked him why. He never replied yet, but I'm waiting at the moment. Did you tell him that you were ending the relationship or have you just told him what you know and asked him "why?" Link to comment
boltnrun Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 To be honest, I did it. I sent everything and asked him why. He never replied yet, but I'm waiting at the moment. "Why" is because he's a cheater and a liar. Not sure "why" you'd want to continue trying to be in a relationship with a lying cheater. Hopefully you're ending this. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 To be honest, I did it. I sent everything and asked him why. He never replied yet, but I'm waiting at the moment. I cannot believe you asked him why! Why do you think he would cheat. Where Is your self respect! You should have ended it! Sad! Link to comment
catfeeder Posted May 1, 2017 Share Posted May 1, 2017 So I should just tell him I got on his skype and dump his ass for lying? You don't need to tell him anything, just dump him because this isn't working for you. You don't need anyone's permission to walk away from a disloyal guy, and you don't owe him or anyone else your reason for doing so. Life is too short to waste on the wrong people. Respect yourself, and you'll thank yourself later. Link to comment
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