He has a new gf

[Millie140]

He told me last week he has a girlfriend. I was heartbroken again, but thought it would be the closure I needed. He's been seeing her since last month.

We've been on/off contact due to joint bills, so just about those. Never getting personal, he knows I still have feelings for him. The messages are mainly our situation.

 

Yesterday he called me. We were on the phone for an hour. He sent me a message sometime last month which was fairly flirty, (message said we should go for a drink & whatever happened after was always good!) he left his phone out & a friend of mine saw it, and wants to go to his girlfriend with it. (There were rumours he cheated on me, but I don't know.) The messages were between us while he's been with his new girlfriend. I wasn't aware he was with anyone.

 

On the phone he said he's nothing really to lose, if it got out - they've only been together since last month and who knows they might end up splitting up next week?!! Sure she'd love it if she knew he'd said that?

I emailed him after with a message from the phone company, which had arrived whilst I was on the phone. We exchanged a few texts, it ended with him sending the blowing heart emoji.

 

Is he playing me as by the sounds of it this new relationship isn't what he hoped? It's hurting me so much

[Heart of gold]

Yes he wants his cake and wants to eat it. The new relationship isn't going to last. Not sure about your back story. How long ago did you split? Is she a rebound?

When you said he knows you've still got feelings, he is playing on that.

Pull back, be strong and separate/cancel phone contracts where possible

[Millie140]

We split in August officially, but got back together around Christmas - February. He ended it again the end of Jan saying that he couldn't fake his feelings and he wanted to move on.

[jujusamples]

We split in August officially, but got back together around Christmas - February. He ended it again the end of Jan saying that he couldn't fake his feelings and he wanted to move on.

 

You should move on also! This relationship you have with your ex sounds exhausting. That's why no contact is always the key after a breakup. Sort out your bills or whatever and go no contact. You can't continue to have this joint bills thing with an ex. I'm pretty sure there are ways to settle it so you don't need to contact him. It sounds like an excuse to be in contact, if you were to ask me. This is not healthy.

 

It shouldn't matter, what or how is it going with his new girlfriend. You are just going to hurt yourself even more by stewing on this. Wanting closure is another excuse. Him breaking up with you not once, but twice, is .. closure! You really need to go no contact and focus on yourself. You already know the relationship didn't last a second time. It's not going to work the third. All it's going to do is cause more pain for you.

[Dominique]

If he has a gf, move on.

[Heart of gold]

We split in August officially, but got back together around Christmas - February. He ended it again the end of Jan saying that he couldn't fake his feelings and he wanted to move on.

You definitely need to cut contact. Gf or no gf he isn't good for u at all. He's playing with your emotions.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry this happened. How long were you dating? Why did you breakup? What joint bills do you have? Sever those immediately.

 

That scheme 'your friend' cooked up won't get him back. Sending that to his new gf makes it look like you are hoping to break them up and that will get him back. It won't.

 

He's with someone so sever ties and go no contact and delete/block him. Stop sending heart emojis, etc.. Don't hookup while he solidifies things elsewhere.

He's been seeing her since last month. We've been on/off contact due to joint bills, so just about those. a friend of mine saw it, and wants to go to his girlfriend with it.

[MissCanuck]

Agreed with Wiseman, don't go forwarding these messages to his girlfriend. That nearly never works out the way you'd hope.

 

Accept that it's over and has been for a while now, untangle and separate your finances, and let him go.