Texting hurts

[Armilla]

Hi, this is an update to my earlier posts whose background goes like this -met a guy, invited him for a group activity , had a one on one conversation for all the time,he gives me his number and a hug. Walks me back, we leave. Tried twice to communicate via texts. (In two weeks, he never initiated but always replies enthusiastically) We agreed to meet again after exams (waiting for it) but here's the thing. I had a very good news to tell him. We had both been looking for internships. During our last conversation he mentioned that we will get one. I informed him of it. He replied immediately and asked me the location and congratulate me. I replied and he hasn't replied to my text. It's been a few hours. But this is after a long time that I finally texted him. I met him last during that activity and it hurts me that we haven't met again. My internship is in the same place where his sister stays so I thought he would say something. Am I overthinking ?

[Annia]

I think you're investing too much on a guy you only met a couple of times and not in a dating context. He seems to like you as a friend, but is not making a priority out of scheduling a date with you. He seems to be in this very casually and light heartedly and you seem to be taking this very seriously. It's ok if he doesn't answer texts right away. Don't feel hurt about it and lower your expectations by seeing him just as a guy you clicked with. Don't force it and relax.

[Hollyj]

Don't reach out again. If he is interested he will contact you.

[1a1a]

It's your gut going "warning, warning, lack of reciprocity".

 

Throw yourself back into your life, you've opened the door for him but can't make him walk through it. *fistbump of solidarity*. Every guy I've liked in the last year and a half has been lukewarm at best, it's a bummer for sure but save yourself some sadness and let it go now.

[Wiseman2]

Stop forcing extended text convos. He replied to your news - end of text session. Stop chasing him so hard. Wait for him to initiate.

 

Connect on social media to stay in touch. He's not your bf so stop the over-texting.

I informed him of it. He replied immediately and asked me the location and congratulate me. I replied and he hasn't replied to my text.

[Armilla]

Well right after I posted this, he replied and again enthusiastically. And then stopped again. He confuses me. I have asked my friends and they are confused too. Hoping for him to reach out to hang seems to be my only option now ?