Lucha Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 I've recently started two topics on being attracted to a coworker. We are both women, she has a girlfriend and I am single. From the start, we have had huge chemistry between us and initially I pursued her until I knew she had a gf. But there was definitely some mutual interest despite her relationship. We did go for drinks as coworkers a few times and this is were some flirting began. She was clear however she was with someone and I tried to respect that. However, in those few 'non romantic' dates we had she really messed with my mind subsequently stating that 1. She has a girlfriend and didnt want to cross any boundaries 2. She said she had feelings for me and seriously doubted her RS and claimed to have talked about this to her boss? (Which is not my boss, im a doctor she isnt) but came to the conclusion that we cannot date since we work in the same department and her job is even more important than her girlfriend 3. She states she can be in love with a few people at a time (me and her girlfriend) and she can enjoy this flirting but will choose her girlfriend. She even outright states how she is not what I need etc. And how I deserve better. Since I am not new to dating and attraction I obviously see all the red flags, hell There might as well be giant neon warning sign next to her. Rationally I know this, emotionally I have feelings for her. What worked best for me in the past in similar situations is to go contact, butttt we work together. More importantly, she continues to look for my attention by using social media to send me work related topics such as articles, etc. Sometimes she sends sweet messages as well but mostly work related. I am a little unsure of how to approach this as I do not want to burn any bridges, do not want to create an awkward working environment and I do like her so don't want to hurt her. She said she knows I'll probably become more distant somewhere in the future as she continues to choose for her girlfriend and it will hurt her. Ofcourse now she is hurting me too so that shouldn't be any of my priorities. But in short: I really like her and enjoy her affection, however I know this is bad for me and I should put an end to this. But we work together and no contact is not an option. Professional contact is but then do I ignore her texts? Any thoughts? Link to comment
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