He broke up with me by blocking me?!

[natmt]

I was dating this guy for 3 months and we hadn't seen each other for the last 3 weeks because we were both busy (more him than I). Last Monday he texted me telling me that he has to give up his house and he has to be out by the end of this month. Also, he said he was not talking to his mother because she had a lot to do with him giving up his house. I initiated 2 texts since last Monday because he just kind of went silent. I asked how he was doing and he said he was sad and really stressed out between moving and work. He said he didn't want his chaos to be my chaos. I told him I was here for him and to let me know if he needed anything. My birthday was 2 days ago and he did say happy birthday beautiful. However, today I noticed he blocked me on Facebook. I'm so hurt and angry! He didn't even have the decency to end things with me. I just thought he needed space and he would come back to me..well now I know. I texted him confronting him about blocking me on Facebook and I told him to take care. He hasn't responded. He may have blocked my number too. I'm not sure. I feel so betrayed. Also, he would always talk bad about his ex-girlfriend so I think he wasn't over her yet. Sorry, this is more of a vent than a question.

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately it sounds like it's been unraveling for the past month. After 2 mos of dating that's not a good sign.

 

He may be stressed and whatnot but it sounds like he's keeping you around minimally yet has been checking out of the relationship for quite a while using the 'busy' then 'stressed' excuses.

 

It sounds like he was trying to get back with the ex the whole time and perhaps they are talking now so he wants you off his social media. Sorry this happened. The first red flag was "too busy for 3 weeks"

3 months and we hadn't seen each other for the last 3 weeks because we were both busy. I initiated 2 texts since last Monday because he just kind of went silent. I asked how he was doing and he said he was sad and really stressed out between moving and work. today I noticed he blocked me on Facebook. he would always talk bad about his ex-girlfriend

[limichelle]

I'm sorry this happened to you it certainly is a cowards way out.

 

I feel he checked out after two months and stopped being interested.

 

There is no such thing as 'too busy'. If someone is interested they will make time for you!

 

Lisa

[Dominique]

he is spiraling...... this is about to be the beginning of a bad time for him. he's not over his ex, he has family problems and financial/home/place to live problems.

 

he can't handle himself right now, much less you.

 

he blocked you because he is ashamed and depressed and is not acting rational because he is not rational.

 

i am sorry he treated you that way. it wasn't necessary. but now you know how he is....and he is awful. (an awful mess)

[natmt]

Unfortunately it sounds like it's been unraveling for the past month. After 2 mos of dating that's not a good sign.

 

He may be stressed and whatnot but it sounds like he's keeping you around minimally yet has been checking out of the relationship for quite a while using the 'busy' then 'stressed' excuses.

 

It sounds like he was trying to get back with the ex the whole time and perhaps they are talking now so he wants you off his social media. Sorry this happened. The first red flag was "too busy for 3 weeks"

 

Thanks so much for your reply

[Annia]

He proved that the relationship is not a priority to him.

 

It doesn't matter if one is stressed or having a hard time, but at least he'd have the decency to actually break up with you. He's a coward. There's no excuse in breaking up this way. I know this is not comforting but the good thing is that it was just 3 months and you dodged a bullet. Imagine if this happened more down the road when you were even more attached? Now you're free to find someone who really cares for you.

[ParisPaulette]

Given that a grown man is blaming his mother for losing his house (excuse me?) it sounds like you dodged a serious bullet. His simply blocking you is his way of saying he has no time to deal, but it may also be to hide what else is going on like with the ex, because that doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me. If it's his house, he's responsible, if his mother can't pay his bills and he's not a minor, that's not her responsibility. Although when I stop and think about it I do realize there can be other circumstances that can happen under, but it seems really an odd thing to say or blame on others. And that's a bit of a red flag.

 

Three months in he could have at least sent you a text saying it wasn't working out. But a lot of times people are trouble tend to drop in and out without finality, because they want that door open a crack should they decide whatever else they had going isn't going to work out. So they "disappear" and then it's "Oh, you misunderstood why I did that..." or "I was under a lot of stress" or "Other implausible excuse, because it takes all of 2 seconds to send a text saiyng it's over."

 

I would not respond should he come back around.

[kamurj]

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