When love is lost

[Ally1194]

Nothing hurts worse than a man who puts down all your hope and dreams. I finally want to move away from my hometown and he said I was being unrealistic. I was only moving because I run away from my problems. When I bought my own car he almost broke up with me because I was stupid for wanting to lease. He told me I was dumb not to use my savings to pay off my student loans. Not being able to have normal conversations with the fear of repercussions causes one to stop communicating. I struggle everyday with still loving this man even though he called it quits and wanted me back an hour later because he "changed his mind." Even though as he was breaking up with me he says a million hurtful things and then still wanted me back. Would you take him back?

[reinventmyself]

no way. . .been there done that.

He is manipulating you and threatening you with abandonment to get his way.

He's an abuser who is eroding your self esteem and conditioning you.

When love is lost? This is not love.

[HeartGoesOn]

Would you take him back?

 

Absolutely not! You're better than this...

[ParisPaulette]

Hell no. I've been there, I finally dumped him when it dawned on me his criticisms of me and anything good in my life were his way of keeping control over me. If I never thought I deserved better, because of his brainwashing then I wouldn't get rid of him and get myself something better. And then one day it dawned on me I could do better, even all by myself, so I dumped him and then found out not everyone out there is going to be upset and make you feel any good thing you want is bad or wrong.

 

So just dump him and move on already. You know this is done, there is no reward in forcing yourself to stay in a relationship that is dragging you down and emotionally abusive. Be proud of what you've accomplished in spite of him saying you couldn't and cut him out of your life.

[Ally1194]

Hell no. I've been there, I finally dumped him when it dawned on me his criticisms of me and anything good in my life were his way of keeping control over me. If I never thought I deserved better, because of his brainwashing then I wouldn't get rid of him and get myself something better. And then one day it dawned on me I could do better, even all by myself, so I dumped him and then found out not everyone out there is going to be upset and make you feel any good thing you want is bad or wrong.

 

So just dump him and move on already. You know this is done, there is no reward in forcing yourself to stay in a relationship that is dragging you down and emotionally abusive. Be proud of what you've accomplished in spite of him saying you couldn't and cut him out of your life.

 

Thank you I have, just needed a little reassurance I wasn't overreacting.

[Ally1194]

Hell no. I've been there, I finally dumped him when it dawned on me his criticisms of me and anything good in my life were his way of keeping control over me. If I never thought I deserved better, because of his brainwashing then I wouldn't get rid of him and get myself something better. And then one day it dawned on me I could do better, even all by myself, so I dumped him and then found out not everyone out there is going to be upset and make you feel any good thing you want is bad or wrong.

 

So just dump him and move on already. You know this is done, there is no reward in forcing yourself to stay in a relationship that is dragging you down and emotionally abusive. Be proud of what you've accomplished in spite of him saying you couldn't and cut him out of your life.

 

I look forward to truly being happy with a man one day. This man would love me one day and then tell me everything he didn't like about me the next. Every time I told him he was being mean with things he said he would tell me people are mean, that's life, learn to deal with it.

[Ally1194]

Absolutely not! You're better than this...

 

Thank you!

[Ally1194]

no way. . .been there done that.

He is manipulating you and threatening you with abandonment to get his way.

He's an abuser who is eroding your self esteem and conditioning you.

When love is lost? This is not love.

 

Thank you. As soon as he is mean to me he always apologized about an hour later. I always accepted his apology until the day I realized this was an emotional rollercoaster I was sick of riding. How does one apologize for his behavior, yet the behavior never changed? I cannot wait until a better man comes along.