9224sp Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 There's this guy that I love and I known him for 3 years. We hung out for a year and a half before we had sex and had nice times with each other. We fell off a little after that and around the same time I was dealing with domestic violence at home and I was raped. I was really hurt and confused. Fast forward 11 months and I'm getting ready to enter a new relationship. He calls out the blue and tells me he was afraid that he was in love with me that's why he was so distant. I told him I was involved and not interested. After two months the new relationship ended badly and left me feeling insecure but free. After a couple weeks I contacted him and we been talking for 2 months now. In the beginning my ex was contacting me a lot and popping up at my house and he told me he didn't like it and he didn't want to continue with me unless he wasn't in the picture. So I became firm with with my ex and he understood. So lately my love and I are decent though I'm still reluctant at times with him out of fear. I also don't go out much anymore and I have always worked 2 and 3 jobs. He's had a problem with me going out before and working but he says he understands now. I live an hour from him now instead of being 20 minutes away but I don't mind the trip. He has a new car and comes to see me every week. He adopted me a kitten that I adore but all of a sudden he's becoming distant again. He told me he's been getting more work and I accept that. He calls me and we speak for like 5 minutes until he says he has to call me back and never does. He asked me out on a date and I felt like he was trying to make things better because he saw that I noticed the change. I'm happy as long as he's trying. He came over my house last Friday after I got off late from work. I had another job to go to in a few hours so I told him just to stay until I get back in the morning. We were affectionate before I left he hugged and kissed me. When I got back he was on my couch and I wanted to lay next to him for a few minutes before I made breakfast. His phone was laying next to him so I picked it up to move and checked the time since mine was dead. I saw a text from a girl saying good morning baby. I was shocked and guilty because I never check his phone. I don't believe in that. My ex had a fixation with my phone so I really hate it. I didn't unlock it I just sat down while he was asleep but I got up quickly because my nerves were driving me crazy. I felt so jealous and betrayed. He tells me I'm the only one a lot without me asking. We spent the day together but I wasn't as affectionate. We laughed together but I wouldn't even sit next to him and just wanted to sleep. The fear of him abandoning me again came back heavy. I felt like that way he wasn't able to speak to me not work. As he was getting ready to go home I told him I don't think we should speak anymore. I told him I hate that he ignores me and that he never calls back. He said he cares about me a lot but when he calls me I don't have much to say anymore and I should go out more. I pissed now because I literally don't talk because he always interupts and says he can't talk at the moment. I don't mind being alone either I decided that was good for me after I was raped instead of going out and finding someone that might hurt me. I feel like I made a mistake though. I can't stop thinking about him and crying. We're technically not together. Should I have asked him about the text first instead of leaving ? Is it me ? Link to comment
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