Should I have the relationship talk with him or just wait?

[silently]

Hello, if you are familiar with my account and are wondering why I'm asking this, it's because my friend wanted me to write this out for her because she really needs advice on the situation! Anyway, her and this guy have been talking for almost a month now. They have been on multiple dates and they both like each other...He tells her "you're mine" "you are my dream girl I wouldn't trade you for anyone" "you are the only one for me" stuff like that. Like they obviously only have eyes for each other and have made it clear that they are only interested in each other. They act as if they are boyfriend and girlfriend but he hasn't made it 'official' so she can't really introduce him as her boyfriend. Anyway, she was wondering if she should talk to him about it and maybe just ask him something like "what are we?" or should she just wait it out, give it more time and see if he says something about it?

[annie24]

given what you've written, it sounds positive. how does he act towards her? does he text her every day? go on regular dates? If he's acting like her boyfriend, he's probably her boyfriend. If he acts like her boyfriend on dates but then goes MIA for a week or two, then he's not her boyfriend. I guess if she is curious about it, she should just ask him. She can wait it out as well, it does sound like the relationship is going well based on what you've written and I'm sure he'll ask her to be his gf soon.

[Scoe141]

I agree with Annie. I'd give it a bit more time. After a month or so I'd see where the two of them are at. If they're not on the same page, then perhaps they want two different things.

[Wiseman2]

He's sweet talking her a lot. Is he trying to fast track the sex? Are they exclusive? Rather than her anxiously asking to slap a label on it in less than 30 days of dating, let her be smart and see what happens and what he does with all this.

 

What if he says yeah, sure bf/gf. She's got her meaningless label but is chasing and pushing to get it out of him.

her and this guy have been talking for almost a month now. he hasn't made it 'official' so she can't really introduce him as her boyfriend. Anyway, she was wondering if she should talk to him about it and maybe just ask him something like "what are we?" or should she just wait it out, give it more time and see if he says something about it?

[boltnrun]

All the flowery stuff he's saying would be setting my BS meter to "WARNING!!!"

 

He can't possibly know after ONE month that she's the girl of his dreams, etc. ANY girl can seem like that after one short month!

 

I'd recommend your friend wait a couple more months. If she is only comfortable having sex while exclusive, she should hold off.

 

Of course, if she's already had sex with him then the toothpaste is already out of the tube, so to speak. She's already illustrated she IS willing to have sex outside of an exclusive relationship. Hopefully this isn't why she's anxious to put the "boyfriend" label on this guy.

[annie24]

I guess it depends on their cultures. In some culture, the flowery language up front isn't that unusual like it would be in the US I think. But only time can tell whether he's being sincere or is just saying whatever to get into her pants.