Ulz123 Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 So i was together with a guy for 3 months. Towards the end, i became a bit clingy and started to smother. I didnt realize that i was doing it. Me and my ex would get into fights and then we would make up and i would continue to fight. One night was so bad that i started 2 fights within 1 hour. So, he finally had enough and broke up with me. The next day i asked to speak in person. We met up and talked. He basically said that we are two different people and he didnt see it working out and that its just too much and he feels smothered. So, of course i was heart broken and continued to text him for 2 days afterwards. I basically was just pleading for a second chance because i truly wanted to give it another try. I knew what i needed to work on and i was ready to really put my all in. I told him we could take it slow and that if it doesnt work out then we know its officially over. He said he wasnt sure and needed his space and that he couldnt guarantee that we are getting back together or not getting back together. So its been 20 days since i have spoken to him. He told me that i needed to leave him alone right now so that is what im doing. We still are friends on snapchat and he views all of my snapchat stories fairly quick. I know i shouldnt read too much into it but if he didnt want me in his life then why would he view my stories? Better yet, delete me. So all in all i just miss him a lot and im hoping he gives me another try. I feel like the space has helped. I always hear that if you give them space then they forget why they even ended it in the first place. Should i be the one to reach out? Its been 20 days since we've talked. Hes a stubborn person so maybe he wants to but doesnt know how? I just dont know what to think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Sorry this happened. After dating a couple months incompatibilities like this come out. Picking fights and demanding more time and energy and attention never works. At 2 months you observe what's going on and if it is too lame, you just end it. Stay no contact, not to get him back but to reflect and heal. He asked you to leave him alone, so don't contact him.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ulz123 Posted April 24, 2017 Author Share Posted April 24, 2017 Do you think it would make things worse if i casually asked him how hes been. Its not like hes mad at me anymore or anything. And he clearly doesnt want me fully out of his life if he kept me on social media Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujusamples Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Do you think it would make things worse if i casually asked him how hes been. Its not like hes mad at me anymore or anything. And he clearly doesnt want me fully out of his life if he kept me on social media Yes, it will be worst even if you just ask how he's doing. You only dated 3 months and there are that much drama to the point where he needs space? You should spend this time to work on your self worth. Figure out why you are so attached at 3 months? The fact that after 20 days you are still obsessing over him, you haven't done much to change. You need to shift that focus on healing and assume it's over. If you get back in touch or back together with him at this point, things are just going to repeat itself in a vicious cycle. Except each time it repeats itself, it will get worst. Stay no contact and try to heal and move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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