Confused

[MisterDisaster]

I have been with my boyfriend for about five months. Things seemed to be going well, but I felt like we were rushing things after being with eachother 24/7. He was on Grindr when he went on vacation out of state and was sexting other people - but when they asked to hook up, he stated he was committed.. so why was he on Grindr? He says that it was to fulfill his own fantasies and he knew it was wrong but he didn't think I'd find out. I'm having a tough time trusting him after this - now, yesterday he told me that last Thursday he met with an ex boyfriend of his because things had ended badly and he never got closure just to know if they can be civil with eachother and the ex was moving away to Chicago so he wanted to give him his best wishes before he left and he said he didn't tell me beforehand because of everything that happened with grindr and he knew my trust in him was already broken, so he told me a few days later because he felt like I needed to know and he felt wrong for not asking my permission. I'm just having a hard time dealing with all this after the sexting - I understand I shouldn't check his phone or log on to his accounts and that's something I'm working on but I'm so scared of wasting my time pursuing this any further if he's not on the same page as me. We see eachother all the time and he always reassures me that he values me, but his actions have proved otherwise and I'm scared it's going to become very unhealthy to the point where it goes down a road I don't want it to. I care about him but these signs and incidents from my past relationships are making it hard for me to get past all this.

[Wiseman2]

Well that's a great question. Why is he on dating apps? Can you initiate the exclusive conversation?

He was on Grindr when he went on vacation out of state and was sexting other people - but when they asked to hook up, he stated he was committed.. so why was he on Grindr?