Saures Posted April 22, 2017 Share Posted April 22, 2017 I'm am getting married to the man of my dreams, I love him and I'm fully devoted to him and always have been. I've never strayed, never will or have any intentions to. I have been with him for almost 4 years and we are getting married next year. My issue is, I think I'm also in love with someone else. I met this person 8 years ago. So a long time before my future husband. I was very young when I met him and I was naive and inexperienced; I didn't know what love was then but I do now and I'm realising, I feel the same way about these people equally. The main thing here is, I met the original guy online, we've never met. Even if I was intending to act on my feelings, it would involve a lot of planning, money and time to dedicate being with them in person and physically cheating on my partner. I can't shake him or the feelings I still have for him. Despite the fact we barely ever talk or interact anymore, I am incredibly fond of him and I don't think these feelings will ever go away, as it's been so long knowing him even with limited contact. Is this wrong? Am I emotionally cheating on my partner by having these feelings for this other person? Is it possible to never fall out of love with someone? I have discussed this with a friend and she has an ex-partner who she claims to still be in love with and believes she always will be in love with and will always care deeply about, despite falling in love with others after the relationship and she has told me it isn't odd, it's quite normal and there's no issue as long as I don't act on my feelings. I'm trying to tell myself that because the other person came first, I haven't done anything wrong, these feelings have always been there way before meeting my partner. I'm just worried that this would be classed as emotionally cheating, or being unfair to marry someone else when I love them both the same? I won't act on it, I don't want to act on it, I guess I'm just looking for advice/opinion and hoping the outcome is 'it's normal, don't feel bad'... Link to comment
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