katreefer Posted April 21, 2017 Share Posted April 21, 2017 I'll try to make this brief. Been in a relationship (23F) with a man (35) for 5 years. Typical in the beginning, though I always wondered how he hadn't settled already. We weren't & still aren't interested in jumping into marriage until we know everything about eachother. I know him well enough to finish his sentences after he gets out a word or two. He's all good things most of the time, and we argue about common issues. However, he likes to assume how I feel...and is mostly wrong. So I doubt he knows me equally. Sometimes he handles our arguments in an alarming way. I don't see me being a as a reason to react with such cruelty. The latest: Our shower water gets hot when the toilet is flushed. And I mean BOILING hot, since he has the water heater set that way. I woke up y and went to be alone in the shower (kinda, I talk to myself more & more these days). As I'm mumbling, he busts in, opens the curtain, and begins to tell me we are done. Rips the shower curtain down & flushes the toilet. Of course, I jumped back immediately after my naked body felt the scalding hot water. He never feels sorry for doing things like this, and that bothers me more than the acts alone. So...first question, is what he did considered abusive? 2. Is his behavior acceptable under any circumstance (for example, me being itrational & y leading up to a period)? 3. What would a mature adult do? (Not that I'm childish, but no one has ever intentionally hurt me like this..) Link to comment
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