MonkeyHusband Posted April 16, 2017 Share Posted April 16, 2017 Help! I've been with my partner for 6 years, married for 2 and I've always struggled with communication and conflict resolution. Well, I've made a slip that has spiralled out of control. Now we're 5 days into a conflict and I've got no clue how to resolve it. So this is what happened. At first it seems something quite minor: I didn't ask my best friend if his wedding was going ahead or not (as last I spoke to him, he didn't know). My friends wedding is in Thailand and my Wife wanted to go. However because I didn't find out if it was going ahead, after repeatedly being asked to by my wife, she made a career choice which means she can no longer go. Last week my friend phoned me and told me it was all going ahead later this year, which has upset my wife deeply. She now says that she wouldn't have taken her new job if she'd have known - and of course with this it's dredged up other bug bears about how I don't plan for the future or talk about issues etc. The implication being that this might have been the start of a bigger "sabbatical" or something Anyway, because I found out whilst we were on holiday with friends and family, we haven't been able to talk about it properly until today, so she's been stewing, and I've been beating myself up for days. I can't go back in time so I can't fix this, but I have promised to see a life coach to help deal with communication and future planning issues. She's still wildly-angry with me. I've never seen her this upset before, so it obviously meant a lot to her. We've tried talking about it, but personality wise we couldn't be more different - I'm a massive introvert and she's a massive extrovert. She becomes more aggressive in conflict and I become more stand-offish. Simply put the conversation was : she got angry, I apologised a lot. the last thing she said was 'is that all you've got to say?' before storming off. Now, to my logical mind, that is all I had to say - i apologised profusely, took the blame, and pledged action for personal development. I don't know what else to say or do - Help! Monkey Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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