Feeling alone in this world...

[Beautiful-Love]

I'm sorry the title makes it sound depressing already...

 

 

I've been dealing with a lot of stuff recently...a lot of feelings and emotions, moving back home, being on vacation,...ending old chapter.

 

Before, I feel that I've always been feeling so blessed in life. With my previous relationship, I had a really great guy who always had my back, and I became comfortable with always having someone there. It was my first relationship and lasted 7 years. Now that we broke up and leading different lives, I found myself completely lost...in every area in life I can think of. I side track, and I slack off in everything important. When I get that little burst of energy or motivation, I just as quickly lose it as i gain it, and it's frustrating.

 

 

I don't know, I've been feeling very lonely these past few months. Although I did have someone, I'd never felt like I truly belong anywhere. Not with family. I may have friends here and there but with people always coming and going, I don't feel like there's anything stable. There were many moments recently where I needed someone, but there was no one there. There were friends that I'd hang out with, but they'd rather hang out with their new significant other, doing some other things, not available, which I can only understand. Now, I just feel like I can't depend on anyone and there's this undeniable emptiness in me. When someone says "I'll always be there for you", it doesn't even give me the meaning it's supposed to anymore.

 

Maybe I just lost faith.

 

I know I need to become more self-reliant. I think for the first time in life, I feel like I don't have anyone or if there's any place I can fit in.

 

 

Have you guys felt like that? How did you battle it? How did you become more self-reliant in times like this?

 

 

I'm very stressed out. Lots of things running through my head, so if this feels a bit choppy I apologize.

[Wolfboy702]

I've been going through the same thing for years, emptiness, inability to focus and lack of motivation with the occasional spark that dies just as quickly. Currently on anti-depressants and have tried counseling to no avail but a friend recently recommended me something called CBT (Cognitive behavioural therapy), it's supposed to help you take control of your mind and self-motivate. Not been doing it long so I can't say for sure if it helps and of course different things work for different people but if you can I'd try investigating.

 

If you're like me and you struggle to do even simple things like booking doctors appointments and looking up websites then it really helps to confide in a close friend or family member. My best friend will often look up things for me and pressure me to make phone calls, things I would find very hard on my own. I'd say more but I'm in a bit of a rush at the moment, may post more later.

 

Best of luck to you.

[Beautiful-Love]

I feel like I was overwhelmed and depressed for a while...with everything that has been going on... But I also feel like I'm coming out of this little life crisis or whatever. I started to go the gym recently, and I feel 100% committed to it whereas I was NEVER someone you would see going to the gym....Now, maybe with the stress and wanting a healthy lifestyle, something to focus and push myself forward I find myself wanting to release tension there. Plus, going to the gym and seeing everyone working hard gives me some positive energy that I too need to work hard.

 

 

I think with me right now, I feel like I'm failing everyone...Those that I care about because I feel like I'm still stuck in my own whirlpool of problems.

 

And with that I also feel like I can't rely on anyone to be there either because when I needed someone the most, I was lelt a little bit disappointed, which wasn't anyone's fault. But I want to be more relying on my own self rather than hoping someone would be there for me. You know what I mean? And with that would probably come growth. It's just the feeling of loneliness is like the devil...It attacks you when you're feeling down and vulnerable. When I'm down, I resort to talking and that comes off as me being "negative" and talking might help de-stress me for a littlewhile, but I don't want to be that one person who brings other people down as well.

[Chadz29]

Im sorry to hear you feel this way. I know what you're feeling, Im going through a bad breakup, my ex left me 3 months ago for someone else, tried hard getting her back the last month and a half...she's already sleeping at his house driving his car etc. Spent a year with her. 4 weeks ago she told me very coldly to say goodbye for good and move on. Im devestated and feel so alone. I love God, Im a Christian, but I feel as if I failed God and my ex. I wasnt always a good boyfriend, or a godly one. I made mistakes but never hit her or cheated. I feel abandoned, I dont have friends here, but I have my mom atleast.

 

Remember...God loves you a lot. This life is not perfect and nobody here is. We will encounter pain and cause it. Dont lose faith because of imperfect people and situations. Atleast you can come here and relate to people going through hardships themselves. These sites are what have helped me, even though I still cry for my ex every day while shes with someone else. Pray...Jesus Christ is healer of anything. He can set you free and will never abandon you. Find a local church maybe and talk to someone there? Most churches have good people to talk to and they wont judge you. Some are not great tho but yea..nowhere is perfect.

 

I will pray for you and hope you find hapiness and someone good.

[Wolfboy702]

I feel like I was overwhelmed and depressed for a while...with everything that has been going on... But I also feel like I'm coming out of this little life crisis or whatever. I started to go the gym recently, and I feel 100% committed to it whereas I was NEVER someone you would see going to the gym....Now, maybe with the stress and wanting a healthy lifestyle, something to focus and push myself forward I find myself wanting to release tension there. Plus, going to the gym and seeing everyone working hard gives me some positive energy that I too need to work hard.

 

 

I think with me right now, I feel like I'm failing everyone...Those that I care about because I feel like I'm still stuck in my own whirlpool of problems.

 

And with that I also feel like I can't rely on anyone to be there either because when I needed someone the most, I was lelt a little bit disappointed, which wasn't anyone's fault. But I want to be more relying on my own self rather than hoping someone would be there for me. You know what I mean? And with that would probably come growth. It's just the feeling of loneliness is like the devil...It attacks you when you're feeling down and vulnerable. When I'm down, I resort to talking and that comes off as me being "negative" and talking might help de-stress me for a littlewhile, but I don't want to be that one person who brings other people down as well.

 

Going to the gym is good, keep yourself active and there's less time to think about loneliness. Any true friend will be ok with you talking to them, don't be afraid to. Therapy is there if you struggle to get going but it seems you've already got past that stage. It seems like your wounds are still healing more than anything, with time you should be back to your old self.

[catfeeder]

I know I need to become more self-reliant. I think for the first time in life, I feel like I don't have anyone or if there's any place I can fit in.

 

Have you guys felt like that? How did you battle it? How did you become more self-reliant in times like this?

 

Recognizing a need for self reliance is foundational--lots of people never get that clarity, so you're ahead of the game. This is a transitional time, and those never feel 'cozy' for anyone.

 

I've found it helpful during my roughest times to get out of my own way and just show up for people. Family, friends, neighbors--whoever's running an errand, doing a home project or yard cleanup--gets me. Since I'm not able to enjoy much right now, I can focus on creating great memories for those I love. I don't need to be entertaining, but there's no complaining, either. I just listen. I help prep meals or treat someone to one, and I allow whoever I'm with to drive the conversation and talk about themselves.

 

This becomes a time of regrouping and building stronger bonds. Whenever I'm out of sorts, that's usually a reflection of what I'm not giving rather than what I'm not getting. It's a flow, and rejuvenation will never come from rumination and moping--that just drills a deeper hole to climb out of. I recognize instead that all paths diverge at times, and when people are out of tune with my needs, that's usually a signal for me that I'm not doing enough for myself. So when I'm not yet clear how to do that, I put that question on the back burner and participate with others in THEIR stuff. I make this time about them, not me, and I allow them to 'normalize me'.

 

I also recognize that emotions follow behaviors, not the other way around. If I wait until I 'feel like' throwing myself into others' lives, it won't happen. Over time, I end up thanking myself and feeling more loved and cared about than before. I've strengthened my bonds rather than estranging myself, and I end up inspired with ideas that motivate me for a project or interest of my own.

 

Head high, and write more if it helps.

[Jy1986usa]

I know exactly what you're going through. My entire life fell apart a few months ago. First I lost a good paying job and then a few weeks later my gf who I loved very much ended it out of nowhere. I since then have downward spiraled and sunk into a deep dark depression. I did stupid things, I alienated friends, and basically just self destructed because of all of it. I'm basically having to start my life back over after reaching rock bottom. I feel completely lost. But I'm the only one that can fix it and I'm finally realizing that. I have a long hard road ahead of me but with enough persistence I'll crawl my way out of it. We all will.

[RebeccaLynn]

I'm in the same boat right now. I just ended a relationship that I was in for 15 year and moved on. now I feel so alone sometimes. I feel like no one cares and there is too much on my plate for me to handle. I've been working a lot and getting distracted by books, but I'm still finding myself in the depths of despair a lot.