he has ignored me for 2 weeks, so difficult

[Tinkyonks]

hi everyone, i hope you can help me feel less pathetic. Ive been involved with a guy the past few months and we were in touch every day. I have known him a long time, 3/4 years and weve always been in touch every now and then and hes never not talked to me before. hes just split up with someone and he doesnt want a relationship but im really not one for casual relationships. Because i wasnt sensible enough not to go with the moment i ended up feeling really crap after we were together, and felt so conflicted. i tried talking to him but it probably came out needy and confusing and he got really annoyed with me.

 

i thought i wanted time away from him to get him out of my head because he doesnt want a relatonship with me...but when he started ignoring me i have just found it so hard to just move on.

 

I know he means so much more to me than i do to him, but i am so unhappy that we no longer even talk, he just ignores me and has now blocked me...It feels so rubbish and i just want to feel better but am not sure how. I try to keep busy and have good and bad moments but i just wish this would pass, i feel so stupid for being so attached to someone who, it feels like, cant stand me!.

 

He thinks im selfish and childish for some things i said...I just wanted to feel better about things, because i felt horrible with the whole 'casual' thing... now i wonder if i am being selfish, but how can i not think about what i need?

[gebaird]

how can i not think about what i need?

 

I agree with this. You DO have needs, and you should acknowledge them. The problem here, I think, is that you are trying to get those needs met by the wrong person. This guy doesn't seem very committed to you.

[Wiseman2]

Ok you were being sincere and this is his problem. It's ok to define and ask what's happening after a few months and having sex.

 

He's being a jerk if he strung you along for months then acts annoyed if you want to see where you stand. Excellent you are no contact. Delete and block him from everything.

 

You can do better than this guy. Stay busy and just put one foot in front of the other until this is a meaningless speck in the distance.

Ive been involved with a guy the past few months. hes just split up with someone and he doesnt want a relationship. i tried talking to him but it probably came out needy and confusing and he got really annoyed with me.

[Tinkyonks]

thanks guys. i know he didnt want a relationship but he has given me mixed messges and i think thats why i have got more and more attached. He's always known i have very strong feelings for him even before we slept together again... surely he mustve known that would only increase them? Isnt that the same for most women?

 

I think you are right i will just try to keep busy until he is on my mind less, i hope, one day at a time.