My ex wants to get back together but she had a child with someone else

[Napolian22]

I dated this girl for over two years and we ended up splitting because we had trouble seeing each other and then she had a child with someone else about two years later and now almost three years since she has had the child she says that she wants to get back together. What should i do a child is a lot to handle but i cant deny my feelings for her.

[Lostinlove31]

That is a big responsibility. Why does she want to get back after so many years?

[Napolian22]

We saw each other one day and hit it off and we started talking agian

[melancholy123]

Good grief. One day's chatting and she wants to get back together? You have a TON of things to think about, and much of it pertains to the child. Where is the father in all of this? Are you expected to play daddy? Who is supporting this child? What kind of legal things have been attended to regarding the child? This is one massive kettle of fish you are messing around in. This is not to be entered into lightly.

[Lostinlove31]

We saw each other one day and hit it off and we started talking agian

That's very suspect... i mean possible but i would take it slow

[KantSleep]

Well, I would think long and hard if you can deal with a child on the scene. She is a package deal. Good luck.

[boltnrun]

Is the father of her child paying her child support?

[Matt3939]

Guess the grass wasn't greener

[HeartGoesOn]

Rather than looking at the "now," it would serve you much better to look at the long term. Of course no one can tell you what to do, yet this could have the potential to be a case of, Be careful what you wish for...so to speak.

[sunshine89]

If you truly have feelings for her then her having a child shouldn't be an issue. Take it slow with her, find out if these feelings are truly real and gradually get introduced into the child's life. Make sure you ask questions regarding the child's father and that she just isn't looking for someone to support her and her child.

 

Best of luck.

[Wiseman2]

Was this a long distance relationship? Why did you break up? Did she want marriage, kids,etc. and you didn't?

 

Unfortunately it sounds like she broke up with the father and now is looking for a rebound/instant family and instant "step" dad.

What her relationship with the father? Does he pay child support? How much is he in the picture?

we had trouble seeing each other. three years since she has had the child she says that she wants to get back together.