katecopes Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 I have been distance for about 3-4 months. He calls me his gf but we haven't had the exclusive talk yet. We video chat multiple times a week and have seen each other 3 times in person each for 3-4 days at a time. This past weekend at 2 am I saw a close up pic on his instagram of him and his pretty female friend (both smiling @ camera) and the caption was basically her admitting to hijacking his phone. One of the hashtags was "#notmygf" and "#2cool2bmygf." The post was already deleted that next morning. I haven't brought it up to him yet because I don't want to seem psycho, and honestly it's probably nothing. I know he considers her a good friend- but she is super pretty which is probably the main reason I keep dwelling on this. Thoughts? I feel like the most likely explanation is that they have a flirty friendship and have probably hooked up before in the past. Thank you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 You mention you are not exclusive. Are either you or she his fwb? If you are having sex and want to be bf/gf, maybe it's time for the exclusive talk.I have been distance for about 3-4 months and have seen each other 3 times in person each for 3-4 days at a time. I feel like the most likely explanation is that they have a flirty friendship and have probably hooked up before in the past. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katecopes Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 I realize it is a little silly to expect exclusivity when we are long distance, which is why I haven't mentioned it. I am certainly not his fwb though. I don't know what she is... my question was if it seems to you like they are hooking up? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rosephase Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 I realize it is a little silly to expect exclusivity when we are long distance, which is why I haven't mentioned it. I am certainly not his fwb though. I don't know what she is... my question was if it seems to you like they are hooking up? Have you asked him? Do you trust him? If you are in a relationship treat it like a relationship. Talk to him about what you want. Figure out if you are even on the same page. Don't avoid the conversation because you might not like the answer. That is just setting yourself up for more hurt further down the line. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
firstluvstruck Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 I hope it's ok if I ask if you spoke to him about this or about your relationship. How did it go? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rezie Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 I realize it is a little silly to expect exclusivity when we are long distance, which is why I haven't mentioned it. I am certainly not his fwb though. I don't know what she is... my question was if it seems to you like they are hooking up? It's not silly to expect exclusivity if in LDR. It's a relationship and it follows the rules you set up. It's silly to expect exclusivity if you have not agreed that you are exclusive. Communicate. You can ask about your relationship status and set up the rules. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 So what is the point of maintaining this LDR?I realize it is a little silly to expect exclusivity when we are long distance, which is why I haven't mentioned it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 Would you feel better if she was ugly? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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