Lostadventures Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 Hey Everyone!! So, let me break this down for you guys. I have been separated for awhile, and now i'm divorced. I feel ready to go out and start looking. Anywho... So I had a date with this guy I met at a party awhile back, at the party, we hit it off amazingly. We were talking up a storm. So We met and kind of went bar hopping. We hit it off again really well, Until I got super hammered, and we went back to the hotel, and did the naughty. We woke up together, cuddling.. did the morning naughty. And parted ways. So.. he didn't text me that day. (he has an older flip phone and wasn't really attentive to it) So I texted him the next day. I said something like, hey I had a great time, I'd love to do it again. He texted back and said yeah, when are you available this week? So we set up another date this week. But aside from the little bit of texting.. There is no texting. So i'm confused here. I don't know his motives. I don't know what he wants, if he is using me for sex or if he is generally interested in a relationship. When we talk, they are super deep, meaningful, and we have this really good connection. So.. What does this kid want? He generally seems interested when we are together. And at the party, I was the center of his attention even with other girls there.. So, I'm lost. Help?! Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 Are you like, an older woman? Link to comment
Lostadventures Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 Are you like, an older woman? Lol. Im 24 Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 Oh ok, because you said "this kid" lol. It sounds like he's just looking for casual and a hook-up if your keen. Link to comment
Lostadventures Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 Oh ok, because you said "this kid" lol. It sounds like he's just looking for casual and a hook-up if your keen. Lol. Its a weird habit. He's 22. So technically a kid to me. Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 Ok so what are you looking for? Casual, relationship, dating? It sounds like he does not want to date or relationship. But what do you want to do? Link to comment
Lostadventures Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 Ok so what are you looking for? Casual, relationship, dating? It sounds like he does not want to date or relationship. But what do you want to do? I'm looking for kind of dating. I'm not into the random hook up business. How can you tell he wants just a hook up? Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 Because he dosn't text you, and isn't asking you out on a date. Link to comment
Lostadventures Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 Because he dosn't text you, and isn't asking you out on a date. Hmm. Good point. We have a "date" tomorrow. Link to comment
Lostadventures Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 Because he dosn't text you, and isn't asking you out on a date. I said I had a good time.. and he asked when i can hang and made the plans Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 It's not a date tho. He's expecting more of the same. But you already know that. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 So far it sounds like one drunken hook up, not dating, no less a relationship. A lot of people go into wild and crazy and mode after getting out of a bad marriage. Just it enjoy. No he's not' using you for sex' if you want the sex and company also and are coming onto him this intensely.. Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 Lol. Its a weird habit. He's 22. So technically a kid to me. This says everything... Stop with him. And you shouldn't have sex if you can't call it sex. The morning naughty? Link to comment
Lostadventures Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 It's not a date tho. He's expecting more of the same. But you already know that. Yeah. I guess so. Lol. Link to comment
Lostadventures Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 So far it sounds like one drunken hook up, not dating, no less a relationship. A lot of people go into wild and crazy and mode after getting out of a bad marriage. Just it enjoy. No he's not' using you for sex' if you want the sex and company also and are coming onto him this intensely.. Maybeeeeeee it can turn into dating?! Link to comment
Lostadventures Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 So far it sounds like one drunken hook up, not dating, no less a relationship. A lot of people go into wild and crazy and mode after getting out of a bad marriage. Just it enjoy. No he's not' using you for sex' if you want the sex and company also and are coming onto him this intensely.. Or is it like.. once a hooker-upper, always a hooker-upper? Link to comment
Lostadventures Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 This says everything... Stop with him. And you shouldn't have sex if you can't call it sex. The morning naughty? Lol. Morning sex. Sober!!! Morning sex Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 Ooph. OP, your word choice makes me question how mature you are. And your actions. You got drunk, had sex, and expect to not be a hookup? Yes. Once a hookup, always a hookup. You're recently divorced. Stay single awhile. Hook up if you want, but slow your roll. You're chasing any guy who'll give you attention. Including one you admittedly call a child. Link to comment
Lostadventures Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 Yeah, you're right. I know I need to chill. I am just trying to learn the "dating game" again. I've been so out of it that I'm lost now. Link to comment
Matt3939 Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 He might be old fashioned. Does he live or work in a restoration village? He does have a flip phone after all. He also might jump onto bed early cause woman had much shorter life spans due to scervy or Dutch oven deaths. Link to comment
Lostadventures Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 He might be old fashioned. Does he live or work in a restoration village? He does have a flip phone after all. He also might jump onto bed early cause woman had much shorter life spans due to scervy or Dutch oven deaths. Lol. He does have a flip phone, yes. He doesn't have fb messenger. But I don't think the whole thing with the restoration village. Lol Link to comment
Knight2001 Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 maybe he doesnt like texting. texting must be one of the worst forms of communication. have you tried phoning him to actuall speak ? i think if you were texting continuously you wouldnt have much to talk about. why not relax and see how this goes ? Link to comment
catfeeder Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 yeah, when are you available this week? If this were the response I got after sleeping with someone, I wouldn't exactly be inspired to pursue the guy. I'd be civil when our paths crossed, but beyond that--naaah. I'd do an inward look at whether drunken sex with near strangers is something I'd want to continue going forward. I can't speak for you, but I tend to bond when I have sex--and so I learned pretty early to be careful and selective about who, exactly, I'll want to bond WITH. Head high. Link to comment
Lostadventures Posted April 13, 2017 Author Share Posted April 13, 2017 I figured it out guys... he really likes me, but has a girlfriend. So.. I guess that makes me a side chick? Link to comment
Lostadventures Posted April 13, 2017 Author Share Posted April 13, 2017 Can anyone explain to me the purpose of a side chick? Is his girlfriend not good enough? Is there any chance for me as the side chick becoming the main girl? Or should I just not see him again? Link to comment
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