Should I let go?

[yungandwild]

I've been seeing this guy (long distance) on and off for over a year. When we first started dating it was amazing, we had so much to talk about and it was very intense and I fell in love with him. After 8 months together he decided that the distance was too much for him and broke it off, I was heartbroken but I understood. 6 months later we start talking again and that soon becomes exclusive again. This time round, however, I have doubts. To me he doesn't seem as interested in me, he can go days without talking to me which would be fine if I saw him occasionally but I don't have that opportunity as we are long distance. I feel like we don't have any common interests. We agree on morals and values, the important stuff, but I feel like lately the conversation has been very stale and boring. I'm also can't seem to shake this jealous feeling off about a relationship he had in the time we didnt talk. He told me about this girl and called her 'the one', which has made me wonder why would he speak to me again after finding someone so special.

I don't really know what to do. Do I break it off with him or do I just have a conversation with him and see if all of this can be resolved?

Any advice is good.

Thanks

[vesper]

If you REALLY like him , then stay.

 

 

If he seems to be pushing you away in any way by ignoring you then take those signals and understand that maybe you are not meant to be together

 

Either way just trust your gut.

 

good luck !

x

 

v

[Andrina]

For one thing, if there is no plan to move to the same locality within a year or two, why would you waste your time in cyber space when you should be enjoying 3 dimensional time with someone, cuddling on the couch, eating meals together, and enjoying all the normal activities a couple enjoys?

 

Nothing you describe is worth trying to continue on with. When you are a priority with someone, you know it. Try meetups.com as a stress free way to meet a potential mate. Get off the damned computer and start getting out into the real world to meet someone who you can physically spend time with. Good luck.

[yungandwild]

If you REALLY like him , then stay.

 

 

If he seems to be pushing you away in any way by ignoring you then take those signals and understand that maybe you are not meant to be together

 

Either way just trust your gut.

 

good luck !

x

 

v

 

Thank you

 

He treats me very well, I am just a bit bored. I'll sleep on it and see how I feel

[yungandwild]

For one thing, if there is no plan to move to the same locality within a year or two, why would you waste your time in cyber space when you should be enjoying 3 dimensional time with someone, cuddling on the couch, eating meals together, and enjoying all the normal activities a couple enjoys?

 

Nothing you describe is worth trying to continue on with. When you are a priority with someone, you know it. Try meetups.com as a stress free way to meet a potential mate. Get off the damned computer and start getting out into the real world to meet someone who you can physically spend time with. Good luck.

 

I think I am a priority in a way, it is just he is very much wrapped up in his studies right now. That is very true however, maybe it is just a whole waste of time in cyber space.

[SherrySher]

What do you hope to accomplish? It doesn't sound like you will ever be in person, so why continue on? It sounds as though he came back to you because he ran out of options or things didn't work out with some one else. I would guess that eventually you both will run out of steam again and move on..what else can possibly happen if you cannot meet?

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately it sounds like the infatuation has worn off and all that's left is the frustration of a LDR.

 

On/off and talking about a girl he calls the one are red flags.

 

It may be best to cut your losses and phase this chapter out or just end it. Don't stay friends. Move on to local available interested guys. Get on some dating apps.

I've been seeing this guy (long distance) on and off for over a year. He told me about this girl and called her 'the one', which has made me wonder why would he speak to me again after finding someone so special

[yungandwild]

Unfortunately it sounds like the infatuation has worn off and all that's left is the frustration of a LDR.

 

On/off and talking about a girl he calls the one are red flags.

 

It may be best to cut your losses and phase this chapter out or just end it. Don't stay friends. Move on to local available interested guys. Get on some dating apps.

 

This is great advice. Thank you very much

[kamurj]

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