Confused about my ex

[robin13]

My ex agreed to meet me, she said she would never speak to me again or see me again because i cheated and was a . She got real jealous when she found out I went on a date with a friend. She added her ex on fb and told me about me via ft last time. Why does she want to meet up? I've begged her for months and she refused but I genuinely have made such an effort to change and have gone to counselling and really have changed my behaviour. Is there still a chance? she tells me she can't take me back because of what people would think but Im not sure. She says she wants to be with me and would love to marry me but cant because of how i acted and doesn't want to waste anymore time. She cries so much over it ,but i have genuinely changed and would never hurt her again and I've told her i will do so many things for her before she even considers taking me back so she can regain my trust.

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately she may be thinking friendzone.

She added her ex on fb and told me about me via ft last time. she tells me she can't take me back because of what people would think but Im not sure. She says she wants to be with me and would love to marry me but cant because of how i acted and doesn't want to waste anymore time.

[LadyAbbey31]

If she agrees to meet up then that will be your chance to see how she feels. That she is agreeing to meet up with you is really positive. She could have simply said no, but instead she seems at least somewhat open (if not extremely wary) to having a conversation.

 

So just tell her again how you feel about her, calmly, when you see her. From there it will be up to her whether to take it any further. If she is open to trying again, you'll need to understand and respect that you don't have a clean slate. She would be taking a big risk by getting involved with you again. You'd have to earn her trust back not so much with your words, but with your actions. Earning her trust may take a log time, you'd need to be patient with that.

 

It seems like you've acknowledged what you've done to hurt her and want the chance to treat her well. So hopefully when you meet up she'll have an open heart, but again it will be her right to move on from you if that's what she feels is the right choice for herself. Good luck

[robin13]

She says she doesn't believe me when I said I wouldn't do it again. I told her I wouldn't go out to club anymore until she is ready to trust me and that I would just be there for her all summer. I know if she gave me a chance she would come back, I genuinely love her. She said she wants to stop speaking to help her get over it but she keeps saying things like maybe in a year and listens to what I say. she said "this is going to be tragic story where two people want to be together but can't." I know she wants to be with me, she's said she will never find someone like me. I just don't know how to prove myself.

[Quidam]

Sounds like teenage drama. My advice move on if she really wants to be with you she will reach out and do half the fight you have been putting.

 

Otherwise some people need that validation that the guy who cheated on them is really feeling bad and is hooked up on them to get their silver lining. You could be in for an emotional roller coaster.

[robin13]

She cried her eyes out when we met, we hugged she held my hands etc etc. She said maybe to getting back over summer and in the future and said she doesn't trust me. I went out that same night, i got with another girl, she said that she didn't care about me another girls and said that she wasn't going to see me again until summer. she then found out about this and went crazy saying i lied to her again and that i'm full of . I don't understand her, I told her I would commit to her but she said she didn't want me too and then when I got get with another girl she goes crazy. hmm not sure what to make of it all.

[Wiseman2]

She has great one-liners for saying the same thing over and over. That it's over.

she said "this is going to be tragic story where two people want to be together but can't."