robin13 Posted April 9, 2017 Share Posted April 9, 2017 My ex cheated on me at a club when drunk when he was 18. I took him back immediately and didn't dump him. Two years later he moved away for uni, our relationship went to . he became so paranoid about me cheating and turned into a psycho. I broke up with him. I then found out he cheated on me another 3 times since the first time, they were all drunk kisses on nights out. He is devastated. He wants to change and has gone to counselling for the past 2 months, he tells me he loves me and he would never do it again. I want to be with him but I don't know if he will actually change. He is making such an effort to prove it to me. I do want to marry him but I'm not sure If i could take him back. What is your advice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted April 9, 2017 Share Posted April 9, 2017 It sounds like he doesn't want to be exclusive. It's best for both of you to be free and single at this point. This is a sign of abusive controlling behavior...research that. RUN. "he became so paranoid about me cheating and turned into a psycho" Stop thinking "marriage" when you are in college and not even exclusive You are over-investing and over-attached.. He told you this every time, right? he tells me he loves me and he would never do it again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dahl Posted April 9, 2017 Share Posted April 9, 2017 How did the topic of marriage arise? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
positivelife Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 I don't think he's ready for any of that. to me it sounds like you're way more serious than he is. Trust me if I was (I'm assuming you're in your early 20s) your age and my partner was talking about marriage I might panic. To me he doesn't sound ready for commitment and you may be putting too much pressure on this relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catfeeder Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 So how many times does the guy need to cheat before it occurs to you that taking him back is probably not a good idea? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ambella Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 Just do it if being with him makes u happy, prepare for heartbreak just incase. Or run, run far tf away! And dont look back Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissCanuck Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 You would be crazy to try to pursue a future with this guy. Unless you envision your future as a wife whose husband can't keep it in his pants. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trinity11 Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 Nope don't do it. Its too broken. He knows you will take him back if he happens to slip. There should be NO slipping for any reason ! It's not respectful and could put your health at risk. It's not love. Find someone who doesn't cheat on you 4+ times and let him learn that it's not ok. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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