Please help me understand

[Zebragrl22]

Hi.I am in so much pain right now. I just been dumped my boyfriend of 3 years. Three days ago he told me he wanted to separate and he wanted to focus on his career.After he moved out he said that he was unhappy our whole relationship and that he didn’t like me anymore. Then he said he wanted to work it all out.Then he said he didn’t wanna ever work it out. I’m just confused. To give a little background. Things were great with us but we had our problems like any relationship. He quit his job like 8 months ago to start doing a sales job based off only commission,selling energy.He wasn’t making any money doing the sales job only like 100 a week.He started to pawn stuff and borrow money from people. I asked him to get a job so he can work on the side to have for back up but he got very upset and said it wasn’t in his plan. He couldn’t afford to help with the rent so he just helped with the light bill (Only came up to about $43) and the cable bill for 160. He wouldn’t even pay them on time.He would let them go past due and pay the minimum amount to keep them from being disconnected. He smoked alot. There were so many days he wouldn’t work he would leave out at 8 am and go see his friends and smoke all day,take them to court visit his mother (who asked him for money every day). We would argue about it..He would yell in my face and I would push hum away from me and told him I would call the police if he didn’t stop. So after we separated he said that he also broke up with me because I put my hands on him when we argue and that I don’t have faith in his career. He also said that he has soooo much to do that doesn’t include me. He said He needs to do things for his family and put them first. I just don’t understand. We were leasing furniture together,was in his name but today I called and put in my name because he refused to take it. We looked at engagement rings recently. We were trying to have a baby. I was seeing a fertility doctor. His family and mind came together. He would hang out with my dad frequently. We got matching tattoos. Which I covered up today. I was so hurt and felt so stupid for having his name on my body and he doesnt want anything to do with me. I know you are reading this an thinking “Girl you are dumb”..But I honestly loved him. I feel that when you love someone you acceot them and everything they bring to the table. I always give him the benefit of the doubt. After all this time and all the things we’ve been through…He just one day decides he wants nothing to do with me with no logical explanation. Please tell me what you think I should od or what you think of this.Was I wrong?? I feel really bad about it and cant stop crying. Please help. Thank you.

[MissCanuck]

Why on earth would you want to have a child with a man who cannot even afford to pay for the roof over his head? How did you envision the child would be fed and clothed? He can't even provide for himself, let alone a baby. That was a poorly-laid plan on both your parts.

 

It's time to wake up and realize this man is immature and self-centred. He sounds like a jerk of a man-child, actually.

 

Let him stay gone. Then work on your self-esteem so you can enforce better standards for yourself and the men you allow in your life. This one sounds like a loser.

[catfeeder]

You can be hurt if you want, but I'd be celebrating. I'd view this guy as my 'never again' model for choosing much better guys in the future.

[kbbcoop77]

Talk about rock bottom. Can't even pay a 43 dollar bill on time and you want to try for a baby with him?? You better be counting your blessings you didn't get pregnant. I'll never understand women falling for guys like this, he must've been a porn star in the sack i guess

[jennylove]

welcome to your new and improved life. You lost absolutely nothing by losing him.

[Whocares479]

Just read the post you just made above. Then read it again...then again....then again. That should prevent you from wanting anything to do with him in my opinion. He sounds like a complete loser, don't let him drag you down please. I can promise you, he is not marriage or father material at this point in his life. Let him grow up, but don't stick around while he do so.