Jasmine842 Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 So I knew this married man online and he never told me he was married until our 3rd date. I immediately wanted to end everything but he didn't let me and kept making excuses and how he and his wife are not happily married, now I found myself in the middle of this relationship where I really like him but I feel uncomfortably guilty and whenever I try to end it he won't let me and tell me all the good things girls like to hear. I RLLY DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. HELP ME PLZ Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 "I'm sorry you are married and I need to end things for that reason". Then you block, delete, go no contact and get back on the dating app to meet single men. Is sleeping with another woman's man worth hearing some false flattery? told me he was married until our 3rd date. whenever I try to end it he won't let me and tell me all the good things girls like to hear. Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 Don't let him sweet talk you anymore, you know he's married so it's time to say "See you later" to him. You can do it. Link to comment
jujusamples Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 It is a CHOICE to end this relationship with this married man! You have to stop making up excuses that he's not letting you break up with him. It takes two to tango. You are just as guilty as he is for being involved with him. Doesn't matter if he tells you all these flattery things, that's his provocative! You on the other hand needs to put a stop to it. Just put it this way, if he's cheating on his wife, what makes you think he won't cheat on you? I've had this guy that was married that did the same thing to me, I told him straight out when I found out he's married, to NEVER EVER call or talk to me again. I also told him, regardless of what he said, I'm on his wife side, I will never date or get involved with a married man. End of story. I block delete and moved on with my life. Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 You end it. And don't allow yourself to get in a situation like this. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 Unless he has a gun to your head sweetheart, he's not forcing you. You chose to become in the middle of a marriage. He is married and you are the other half of a cheating situation. End it, this isn't right and I am sure you know that. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 He "wont let you" end it? You dont need his permission. You end it. You remind him he's married and therefore you are over and done. Block him from contacting you every way you can. What BS about an unhappy marriage, that's an age old tired line guys give women they want to have sex with on the side. Stop being that person. Link to comment
Hicham Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 ok well the only one who would lose here is only you he waste your time and you gonna realize if not now may be later it was a big mistake especially if he has kids you dont need to be the reason of making split of a family to seperate a father from his kids wife from her husband and mother from her kids even if he love you and want to marry you and he is ready to do anything for you to sacrifice everything its insane life even after marriage may be their kids will dislike you if they were too young the answer is do not even dare to look at his face when you meet him in the street or say hi or talk to him he is a cheater Link to comment
ChellyV Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 Immediately cut contact! No explanation needed! And do not ever ever entertain similar situations, as they are too complicated. Not to mention, you might chance upon a crazy wife who is ready to kill. LOL. Scary but true. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 I immediately wanted to end everything but he didn't let me I feel uncomfortably guilty and whenever I try to end it he won't let me I honestly don't understand this. He's not holding a gun to your head. You don't need his permission. The power is in YOUR hands. But it seems you don't want to end it. I think you enjoy the ego boost and the attention, right? Seriously, it is so simple: Tell him you don't mess with married men, block and delete ALL contact and mean it. But the big question is: Will you? Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 I'm willing to bet that if his wife were to find out, he'd deny ever knowing you. Would that make you feel special? You know what to do... Link to comment
Matt3939 Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 He took away all conscious choice or at least the illusion of it? You are woman you are strong go get the apple. Link to comment
ParisPaulette Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 It's not up to him, it's up to you when to end it. Do you mean he cries like a little beyotch and then goes all flattery on you when you try to break things off? Yeah, that's not him preventing you from leaving. That's just you not simply blocking and deleting him after one text that says a restraining order is in his future if he tries to contact you again, ever. Then you ignore him, but be serious about that restraining order. You are not a leaf on the wind or some hapless heroine in a bodice ripper novel. You need to learn to say no to people anyways, everyone needs that skill, so just say NO. Mean it. It is a complete sentence. You can add other more salty language to it as well, but someone boohooing on you or throwing a tantrum is something you need to learn to say no to. Otherwise that's just a flimsy excuse you're using for getting involved with a married guy. Come on, grow a spine. It's not up to others what you do, you're the one responsible fully and only for your own life. Link to comment
ParisPaulette Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 You could also channel Madeline Khan's behaviors and mannerisms in Young Frankenstein. A few times of "Taffeta darling" and "Not the Hair" coupled with no sex, because you don't do that before you marry the fellow will likely be more than enough for him to suddenly "let you go." [video=youtube;MFEKR9p33qA] ] Link to comment
catfeeder Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 I immediately wanted to end everything but he didn't let me and kept making excuses He didn't 'let' you? That's BS. All relationships are voluntary, and you don't need anyone's permission to walk away. Link to comment
Jasmine842 Posted April 8, 2017 Author Share Posted April 8, 2017 Yeah he did not let me. He took my phone and refused to give it back. How should I walk away without my phone ?! Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 Call 911 that's theft, no?He took my phone and refused to give it back. Link to comment
Jasmine842 Posted April 8, 2017 Author Share Posted April 8, 2017 I don't have my phone. Remember? Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 You're making excuses. Then you *literally* walk away, go to some place of business, and call 911. You're making yourself out to be helpless when you are not. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 If this is not a troll post, use someone elses to report it stolen if your married man guy "won't let you leave".I don't have my phone. Remember? Link to comment
catfeeder Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 Yeah he did not let me. He took my phone and refused to give it back. How should I walk away without my phone ?! Put one foot in front of the other, and repeat. When you're far enough away, start screaming, "I've been robbed! Please call 911! That man just stole my phone!" Get the police involved, and let him excuse himself to them. Link to comment
kamurj Posted April 9, 2017 Share Posted April 9, 2017 The thread has run its course. Closed. Link to comment
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