Tracy2 Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 I have recently had a discussion with a man I have been having a relationship now for a year. It was a heavy duty conversation that did nothing but confuse me in the end. I have a real issue with him that I have yet to sort out. He has told me that he wants to stay in this relationship with me but also to sleep with other women every now and then. He claims he's in the free way sone but with in the last year he has only been with me. I am really confused with this person because he seems to contradict himself all the time. This other women thing "is" an issue for me. It isnt that I hadnt been fore warned because he did tell me about this early on. Not to say that I have resolved it with in my self yet. No I havent. Im very upset about this. Recently an ex girlfriend has shown up who he says he isnt sleeping with and I believe him, but still it is SO uncomfortable being around her since we share the same kitchen space and also there is something very wrong with her. But to he main point: I was unhappy with this women being here and wanted to know how long she would be staying. Now, do I have a right to want to know this? Am I wrong for wanting to know this? I came in and asked him this as calmly and nicely as I could and he more or less blew up on me like I was the bad person for wanting to know. Then he acused me of drama which he started, I got upset and told him that I was confused and wasnt sure anymore if I wanted to continue living here anymore under the obvious reasons of not wanting to be subjected to watching him with other women. I thought it was pretty obvious that this issue has been hurting me terribly. He doesnt seem to care. He makes this my problem. Ive tried to be ok with this, but what happens is that I get accused of being insecure as a person, not loving enough to myself, some how this is all ways my character down fall where I am the weak one with issues never him. And its true I did get very insecure and doubted that he even has ever really loved me at all. I told him I felt used. Well, he got really upset and felt hurt that I even said that which confused me more. Then I felt really really awful like I ad just ruined our relationship. Amoungst all this stuff going on between us I had to tell him that I was not sure if I wanted to live here anymore, seriously feeling this way. Well with this he accused me of being controling and trying to manipulate him like ALL women do. For myself personally I was only trying to express to him what might be best for ME. Isnt it kind of controling and co-dependant of him to take what I had to say as a ploy to only get my way? I only want to protect myself and do whats best for me. I need some help with this. I need straightened out. Thanks for listening. Tracy2 Link to comment
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