help me understand my ex love

[Skinnyg1]

Ok my ex who I dated for a year and lived with for 7 months Found out her grandmother who lives in California 2000 miles away from me has breast cancer, my ex decided she was going to go stay with her and take care of her because she also has the hereditary breast cancer gene. The whole time leading up to her flight to leave she was assuring me we could do a long distance saying how she wanted my kid and how she loved me soooo much and also right after she left. A week after she had landed in Cali we ended up breaking up cause she needs time to think and deal with all the problems she's running into down there and she told me she honestly wanted to be with me but not in a relationship right now.

It sucked i dealt with it and after a week of no contacting her I figured I should probobly get my stuff back before it got too long and got weird to ask for everything.

 

This is where things go crazy she flipped out started cussing me over text I didn't argue back just wanted my stuff back she said I couldent go and get it from her parents that she would give it to me when she got back (around 4 months) I said ok and she ended up saying that the reason for leaving was I put her in an emotionally abusive relationship. I think that Was something she felt just cause she is **** at that moment, and the conversation ended with me saying everything's going to be fine and I'm going to be okay and happy something like that and she said I don't want you to be happy I want you to hurt.

 

Then 2 weeks after that she started unblocking me on everything and I said I'm don't with the blocking **** I don't see a need for it anymore. somewhere a conversation came up about a ring that I had got her before we broke up but never gave her and I was goin to send i to her she said she would love that I told I would send it on Friday of last week and I did but after I sent it I noticed she was liking my brothers pic in intsta and I made a stupid tact asking if she was trying to get with him or hurt me long story short I told her I still wanted her and her last text was "I don't want you" then she blocked me on everything again

 

Two days after that on Sunday she unblocked me and texted me I want to get over you but I keep thinking about you and I wish things didn't turn out the way they did. I ended up saying I learns a lot from the situation and she was 2000 mile away there's not much we could do she never responded

 

She got the ring along with some other things I sent and lined them up and sent a pic and said "thanks☺️"

[RebeccaLynn]

I'm a bit confused as well; she's saying that she wants to keep in touch and then she blocks you. she wants you to hurt and then suddenly she unblocking you. but there is one thing that's pretty clear she's 2000 miles away, and actions speak louder then words. I would get your things back from her if you can, and then mark her down for one that flew the cuckoo's nest. find someone that is easier to understand, if she wasn't 2000 miles away it may be easier to figure her out.

[nsolo]

I'd run away, and fast. This girl is going to jerk you around all she can. I'd be out. No contact. I'd tell her to contact you in a month or two if she's still interested then, and I'd focus on moving on.

[IAmFCA]

Ugh. Id go quiet and let her emotions stabilize. As alwayz put it on you. "Its been difficult for me to manage wifh the highs and lows. I m going to be quiet for a month or two."

[Wiseman2]

Your stuff is at her parents house? She can't hold it hostage for 4 mos. Why did you live together so soon? Are you college students/roommates? She was checked out we hen she left and moved there.

 

Arrange to get your stuff and sever ties and contact with her and all of her people. Go no contact and delete and block her and all her people from social media.

A week after she had landed in Cali we ended up breaking up cause she needs time to think and deal with all the problems she's running into down there and she told me she honestly wanted to be with me but not in a relationship right now. I didn't argue back just wanted my stuff back she said I couldent go and get it from her parents that she would give it to me when she got back (around 4 months)