Tjphoenix Posted April 6, 2017 Share Posted April 6, 2017 I am a 32 year old man from London with a 30 year old girlfriend of 3 years. We are on the verge of moving in together, but of late I have been feeling doubts and I am unsure as to whether my doubts are over a petty subject. I don't wish to talk to friends and family about this because if we fix our problems, I don't want anyone important to me potentially having their opinions of her permanently affected. So my gf has become increasingly frustrated with political and racial themes that are in the media of current. She does not have much interest or knowledge of politics (can barely name our prime minister) however has strong opinions and becomes very easily frustrated and angry and expresses her feelings to me regularly. She detests poor people, immigrants, drug addicts and anyone who generally claims benefits. I realised how right wing her opinions were when she stated she would rather have people dying than have a healthcare system that is free for everyone. Now I appreciate this isn't a political forum, I appreciate some of you who read this may be right wing aswell, however I am not, I wouldn't say I'm left wing either however I am a little put off by the anger it creates rather than her actual beliefs. Things do get worse unfortunately, her brother is very racist and has even racially abused people of ethnicity in public. I feel she is heavily influenced by him as when frustrated about things in the media (terrorism, immigration etc) she expresses her frustration thorough the use of racist terminology. I wouldn't say she is a racist person, but she is ignorant, a little uneducated and allows herself to say offensive things when she gets angry, which seems to be quite regularly. My main question I'm putting out there is, am I right to feel how I currently feel, which is that I'm not sure if she's mother material for our future kids, if I am to be so blunt. I'm also not as attracted to her as I used to be and is that even justified or am I being too petty. Link to comment
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