Moving onto the next one

[Twintoaturtle]

6 months ago, I walked out on a mentally abusive relationship. I literally packed my bag and left the flat, my possessions, car and left the country I was living in to move home to my parents. I have been 'sleeping' with this guy, and I really like him, but when we sleep together I sleep on the other side of the bed, I don't want to cuddle and we never kiss. We have been friends for a long time and the first time we did it we kissed and cuddled but to me it didn't feel right, now I think I have feelings for him but he doesn't really want to spend time with me, and we only meet up to do the deed. We spoke and agreed no one wanted a relationship, but now I think there is more and I don't want to get myself more hurt - do I just walk away now or do I try and get him to want me? Thinking about it brings back all the feelings I once had, such as annoying them, or being bad in the sack etc. I now have an insane amount of confidence, and I love life again, so I don't want to knock all this back. Although I have confidence, I don't have any dating skills anymore, so my powers of understand boys are far behind me now! Any advise at all would be appreciated. Thank you!

[Hollyj]

Walk away. He only wants you for sex. It was be masochistic to continue on as his sex buddy.

 

I also think you need sufficient time to move on from the other relationship, and to understand why you were in it.

[Wiseman2]

Excellent you left that situation. Unfortunately it sounds like at first you were ok with fwb just to have intimacy but now you want more. Tell him you want to date/have a relationship and if he doesn't, walk away.

 

Get a nice profile and pics on some dating apps and start browsing for local single guys, when ready start messaging and meeting guys for coffee. Take it slow and pace yourself.

We spoke and agreed no one wanted a relationship, but now I think there is more and I don't want to get myself more hurt