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Hello for those who are reading I am new here and I have been having a lot of thought about my sexuality so I watch a lot of lesbian porn and it get me horny all the time that I end up masturbating but the things is that I don't know if I like girls I mean I have mutual feelings nothing beyond that I am attracted to guys but I don't know about girls sometimes I do have wet dreams about girls and guys but I have never thought of kissing a girl or liking a girl I haven seen girls naked and it doesn't affect me anyhow and it been bugging me a lot that I like lesbian porn than straight porn and I don't know what to do.

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Hello for those who are reading I am new here and I have been having a lot of thought about my sexuality so I watch a lot of lesbian porn and it get me horny all the time that I end up masturbating but the things is that I don't know if I like girls I mean I have mutual feelings nothing beyond that I am attracted to guys but I don't know about girls sometimes I do have wet dreams about girls and guys but I have never thought of kissing a girl or liking a girl I haven seen girls naked and it doesn't affect me anyhow and it been bugging me a lot that I like lesbian porn than straight porn and I don't know what to do.

If you're attracted to guys but like "lesbian porn" (i.e. 2 hot straight girls going through the motion amirite?), I'm gonna go out on a limb and say you're bi?

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If you're attracted to guys but like "lesbian porn" (i.e. 2 hot straight girls going through the motion amirite?), I'm gonna go out on a limb and say you're bi?

 

I think your bi too. You'd have to try out both to be sure. Watching lesbian porn dosn't make you a lesbian either.

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If you watch lesbian porn but only desire men in "real life" and in your mind your idea of settling down is with a man, you are not gay. You are maybe a woman who likes to look at kinky things. if you don't desire women in day to day life and are not drawn to want a relationship with one, I would not declare yourself a lesbian by any stretch. Maybe stop watching the porn for quite awhile and seee how you feel.. people can condition themselves to looking at and being stimulated by all sorts of things.

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Porn and fantasy involving women can easily be part of a straight woman's fantasy life. We often internalize a gender biased view that makes it easier to sexualize women than it does men. I used to think women's bodies were sexier, more interesting than men's bodies. As I grew into 30s and beyond, I came to see that had absorbed a view of the world through a male filter, as if men made all the advertising, literature, laws, everything. It was easier for me to see women in a sexual manner; were commonly on display in that context anyhow, even in ways we accept as non sexual. Even, for example, in North American culture, say, a woman's cocktail dress versus a man's suit.

 

I am a very straight open minded woman. Definitely not bi or lesbian.

 

The only ways I have been able to involve women in m"y fantasy life is if they are objects. Headless women or women who appear and disappear. Women-with-women porn can be preferable to male-female porn, because so much of the hetero porn is made from a male perspective to which I can't relate and don't want to. Sometimes, women with women convey a more consensual sexuality, one where the balance of power is even and mutual pleasure is of mutual interest.

 

In real life, it seems you are drawn only to men. That would make you hetero.

 

I suggest you read about gender bias in day to day life, speech patterns, and in media and advertising. It may help you understand some of the dynamics within you.

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You can be sexually attracted to women but not romantically. I would not call a woman who is sexually attracted to women hetero because what then would you call a woman who isn't attracted to women at all? You are on the scale between bisexual and heterosexual.

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Honestly what is sexy? Sexuality is learned, from an early age I'm sure you have been subjected to images of women in sensual settings and told it was sexy, right? It's in advertising, TV, movies, magazines, its everywhere! We spend our entire lives subjected to this type of imagery. So it should not be a surprise that you find it easy to be turned on by the female image, cause you've been hardwired to be sexually attracted to sensual women! No worries it means nothing.

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