not sure just lost

[Danie0930]

hey guys just need some advice on the the fact me and my ex fiancé aren't talking and its been 3 days now but really need to know if i should text her. So to start it all off we have been texting before but not frequently as we use to, not sure if its because of school but she texts me late in the afternoon never in the morning unless i text her. And what i notice is that she only texts me for my opinion on things or about whats gong with her in school but when i bring up fun memories of the past she ignores it or gives me one word answers and never engages. Also would like to mention that i now i try to do nice things for her like when she needs help to study or when she texted me to help her with her groceries but even though i feel like I'm being used i just go with it because i want to show her that i love her. For example ever since we started communication she hasn't even asked me how my day was at work or school and it bothers me because i feel like I'm trying but she isn't. The plan was to start off as friends and build from there but lately its just been me trying and doing what she needs and not even a scrap of emotion is present. As for arguments go she always pick fights with me about the things that i do that annoys her like if its not me being happy for things that i like or if i ask her how her day was. Yes you heard right an argument because i asked her how her day was. To go more in depth on that day we had a small argument when she texted me at 7pm (the first text of the day) so after class me being the bigger person i called her just to ask her how her day was but before i could ask her she just started talking about her homework and how she's going out with her friends during the weekend. So after she finished i asked her how her day was and she said it was ok and i said just ok and she blew up and says" i go to school and come home so stop ing asking" and during the whole cursing she was doing i said alright and hanged up on her. This was at 10pm when i got out of class. (she does that a lot where if I'm at her house she would want me to help her do groceries but during the same night i tickled her feet and she got mad at me) So as I'm walking to the train she sends me a photo of a jacket minutes after i hanged up on her and i just ignored it because i pissed because she always talks down to me and i was tired of it. So after i get home its now 1145 and she texts me if i was sleeping and i didnt reply and went to bed. So we go a day with talking and she texts me a photo of an ice-cream place in the afternoon and i dint reply but i waited till i finish my class and she texts me "u back to your not answering let me now cause it won't be a problem" and i texts and "i told you before that i get out late on thursday and its my busiest day" and she said that she texted me since that night and i told her that i left her alone to give her space since she was annoyed with me and i with her. I also mentioned that i did see the ice-cream message but i was in class and she said " whatever" and i said " sure thing." So now it's sunday i feel like I've made a mistake but at the same time i don't. She did ask me to help her study last week for today but hasn't even contacted me just feel like she really doesn't care about me or how i feel on the matter.

[boltnrun]

Does she expect you to buy her the jacket and to buy her ice cream?

[Danie0930]

no it was a photo of a jacket she has and she was putting some design on it but the ice-cream photo i wasn't sure but it was a photo of an ice shop so it could either be she wants to go

[lostlove76]

When you said "So after she finished i asked her how her day was and she said it was ok and i said just ok and she blew up and says" i go to school and come home so stop ing asking" it sounded by her reaction like she might be feeling smothered. But then as I read on, it sounds like she's just a self-centered and irritable person and nothing you do will be considered right in her eyes. She'll pick apart anything, whether you text and show interest or don't text and give her space. She expects you to be helpful and interested in her stuff, but she's not showing interest in your stuff. Very selfish. Sounds like you've been patient and accomodating. I think it's time to quit putting up with it, and if she doesn't like that then too bad for her. She's not a princess. The partnership should be equal.

[nsolo]

"hey guys just need some advice on the the fact me and my ex fiancé aren't talking and its been 3 days now but really need to know if i should text her. "

 

This tells me all I need to know. The best thing to do is to tell her that you can't be friends with her or keep in touch with her because it hurts too much. You want her romantically, and if that can't happen, then you wish her the absolute best. Say to let you know if she changes her mind though. Then you be a man and stick to your guns by not EVER contacting her again. EVER. It sounds cold and hard, and yes, it is. But it's easier to move on that way, in my opinion. Every time you contact the person, that can of worms opens up and gushes ugly, nasty worms of the past all onto you, which can very well ruin your day. She thinks she's too good for you? Well, she can have fun finding someone "better." Perhaps you had some issues that caused things to fall apart. In that case, still cut contact and work on them on your own or even with help. Take some time to heal, learn about what you can take away from this, go see a counselor, stay healthy and exercise, and date other women when you're ready.

[jujusamples]

You two are engaged and broke up! Keep it that way. Why are you trying to so hard to win back someone whom broke your heart?

 

Once you breakup, it's almost never that the relationship will work out. It didn't work once and you got your heart broken. There will be a lot of resentments if you do decide to get back together. The only way that is possible if you go no contact, work on yourself and COMPLETELY get over the relationship. Which means years down the road. You will have to start from square 1 as in "hi my name is."

 

Just leave it as you two are broken up, stop doing things for her. Block and delete her. You need to move on with you life. Go no contact and spend this time to work on yourself and your self esteem.