naples3 Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 A few weeks ago i was out and bumped into her boss, who randomly told me this girl liked me. So i messaged her on the work system got her number and ask her out. She said yes, but for various reasons on both sides we couldn't meet up for a few weeks. Also as we work in different departments we haven't had the chance to bump into each other and chat properly again, but we'd been txting enthusiasticly, and have caught each others glance in passing a couple of times with a small smile (that smile when someone likes you..I think). Anyway we where meant to go for a drink last friday, and she suddenly cancelled just before with no explination asking if we could rearrange to another date. A few days later she txted me that she felt uncomfortable because we worked in the same office, espicially because she was new and didnt usually date people at work. She did finsh the txt saying i should come chat to her when ever i m in her department.... but i m very aware not to get in the friend zoned thing Anyway i get the feeling that she just got a bit freaked out incase it didnt work out, she being new, me more senior and doesn't want to mess her work situation up? We dont get that much face to face contact, but I m usually pretty good at reading all the signals, having had many girlfriends and dates. The only reason i m questioning the situation is that when we're person to person i get a really good vibe and the body language you usually associate with someone fancying you, and those good tensions and vibes don't come around that often… Hopefully i m not being blind and she’s just not interested? I m also very aware of not being that creepy guy at work, which i m sure i m not at the moment. Something tells me to not give up on this one, too just play it cool, be a bit more distant, be patient, a gentleman and when we cross paths to charm her by being friendly, flirty and fun. What do you think ? Thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jibralta Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 A few days later she txted me that she felt uncomfortable because we worked in the same office, espicially because she was new and didnt usually date people at work. She told you that she felt uncomfortable dating a coworker. You should respect her wishes and ease off Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SherrySher Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 Work is a professional environment, not a singles bar. She's right in not wanting to date, it could get very complicated and messy and work is not the place for that kind of stuff. I'm glad she's thinking straight. Find someone else outside of work to date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 Don't use the office communication system to hit on women. She's absolutely correct. Do No Date Coworkers. The workplace is not a singles bar. Leave her alone. You don't want a sexual harassment case against you. What are you thinking? She was crystal clear she doesn't want to date you. Get on dating apps to date and go to work to work. Be friendly, professional, that's it. she txted me that she felt uncomfortable because we worked in the same office, espicially because she was new and didnt usually date people at work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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