xoMariah Posted March 31, 2017 Author Share Posted March 31, 2017 Why are you avoiding the most serious part: his illness? If I tell my parent, she will go religious and spiritual on the both of us.. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 What does that mean? You need to use some better judgement. You have chosen not to learn about this condition, and all that it entails. You have not been dating years, only a few months, and have had many problems. Why are you not seeing that this has NO FUTURE? Why do you hang on to this? Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 He has a bit of both not often. A few weeks ago it got bad, he started talking to his dead father. He told me he had a conversation with him, but I'm the only one who knows that. No. . it's never ok to threaten to abandon someone if they don't comply. Your thoughts are your own and he can't squeeze them out of you. My guess is if you felt safe enough with him then you might share what's on your mind. You don't feel safe and that's why you don't. He's left before, he threatens to do so again. He isn't medicated and talking to dead people. You on the other hand have anxiety issues. You need to be surrounded by stable and consistent people. I can't think of a worse possible scenario for you. Anxiety or no anxiety. This will ultimately be the perfect storm. Link to comment
xoMariah Posted March 31, 2017 Author Share Posted March 31, 2017 No. . it's never ok to threaten to abandon someone if they don't comply. Your thoughts are your own and he can't squeeze them out of you. My guess is if you felt safe enough with him then you might share what's on your mind. You don't feel safe and that's why you don't. He's left before, he threatens to do so again. He isn't medicated and talking to dead people. You on the other hand have anxiety issues. You need to be surrounded by stable and consistent people. I can't think of a worse possible scenario for you. Anxiety or no anxiety. This will ultimately be the perfect storm. Before entering a relationship with him, my anxiety was under control. Now I feel like I'm constantly worrying about what he's doing. Now that I think of the last few months we been together, I'm thinking about ending it. I always had my second thoughts and he lies too.. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 Angers issues, manipulation, lying, talking to and seeing people who are not there . What attracts you to this dynamic? Can you talk to a therapist about your choices in life? Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 OP, you are not prepared to deal with this. That isn't your fault. You are very young and by extension, inexperienced. This is not a situation you want to get involved in. You openly admit you don't much about schizophrenia, and this is very troubling. It tells me that you are ill-equipped to handle what will come your way if you stay. The fact that he does not take his medication as prescribed puts you both at risk. You don't yet have the maturity or wisdom that comes with age, and thus, you don't yet have the ability to see around corners. This is not going to end well for you, at all. You are not stupid, please don't misunderstand what I mean. You seem like a kind girl, who has enough awareness to see that there are problems brewing here. It is clear to me that you don't really yet grasp the gravity of his condition though, in addition to tremendous responsibility of dating a father. At 19, you should not be signing up for such a complicated and messy relationship. Please, take it from those of us with more years and life experience: stay away from him. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 I have an anxiety disorder. I've worked for years to learn to keep in control. One thing I know for sure is that if someone triggers my anxiety, then I need to pay very close attention to what's going on. As much as I used to curse anxiety (I still do at times) I have learned to appreciate some of the things is provides. Your anxiety is a built in accountability system and if you choose listen to it instead of wrestling with it. . and by the sounds of it, it's screaming at you right now. It's a strong signal you are not in a healthy place and have veered off course. Like I mentioned before. . the best partner for an anxious person is someone who is consistent and stable. You could not have paired up with a worse choice. . .let alone someone who threatens to leave you all the time. I hope this gives you something to think about. . .Take care. Link to comment
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