The worst part about break ups

[EnterTheVoid]

So I'm going through my second break up. I'm fortunate that unlike the majority my suffering is very minimal, I'm doing my daily chores without a problem except that a few times a day i just sit back and think about what I'm going to miss.

 

The worst part about break ups to me is that these people you got to know through your relationship, not only do you need to let your ex go, you need to let them go as well.

 

It sucks having to accept the fact that you will no longer know what's going on with your ex's life and the people you got to know through her. And that you will no longer be doing fun things with them, basically having them as a part of your life.

 

I'm truly going to miss my ex and her sister, we used to hang out together a lot. Some of these places i will definitely be visiting again because we've been almost everywhere in the town.

 

So next time i go to my favorite restaurant, my ex and her sister won't be sitting next to me smiling and laughing talking to me, the chairs will be empty and i will be all on my own thinking what it used to be.

[Betterwithout]

the chairs will be empty and i will be all on my own thinking what it used to be.

 

Those chairs don't need to be empty. A breakup doesn't mean your social life ends, don't fool yourself into that negative thinking.

There are 7 billion people on the planet, you are bound to find new friends, new loves.

 

Check out online dating, join a cooking class, dancing lessons, learn an instrument, volunteer.

 

That chapter may have ended, but your life book is large. The next chapter could be even better!

Keep your head up.

[No1]

You just have to start a new chapter of your love life thats all. You two had great times, you met some good people but it didnt work out and you learn from this. You take the good parts from the people you met and you discard the bad. Those good times you had at the bar or at dinner is a part of who you are today. So they will always be a part of you.

 

You will meet someone else one day soon. And when you do, you will open up another chapter that you can fill with more good and memorable memories. Just dont stop being you or looking for what makes you smile.

 

 

[Betterwithout]

You take the good parts from the people you met and you discard the bad.

 

SOLID advice No1. Keep those nice memories, and look forward to the new memories you will create.

[Wiseman2]

Agree. Great advice. Replace, don't retrace. Make new paths and memories and places, people and things for yourself.

Check out online dating, join a cooking class, dancing lessons, learn an instrument, volunteer. That chapter may have ended, but your life book is large. The next chapter could be even better!

[Doc Blaze]

Agree. Great advice. Replace, don't retrace. Make new paths and memories and places, people and things for yourself.

 

This helps a lot. I broke up with my gf around thanksgiving. she used to come home a few weeks later for x mas break and that's when we spent a lottt of time together

 

we used to make cookies,put up the tree, watch x mas movies, go driving around looking at lights so it was hard for me

 

I started to stop feeling sorry for myself and I started making new tradtions

 

my friends had a x mas party, we had another ugly x mas sweater party

 

we went into the city and more stuff

 

to be honest when I started doing that I started to feel a lot better.

[reinventmyself]

I always experience that huge gaping void when a relationship ends.

But I have learned from experience that in time that void is replaced with other things.

 

I never happens over night. In the beginning you would swear it's impossible.

But coming full circle and when the void is no longer there, you wonder how you had time for a relationship to begin with.

Be patient.