Rock bottom

[bugaboo17]

Hello,

 

First time posting on this website I was a bit reluctant to doing so but I have no where else to turn.

 

I just need some help on what to do when you feel like you've hit rock bottom, when you feel like you can't pick yourself up and do not know which direction to go. A lot has happened which has completely knocked me down, including my confidence. You know when you fall flat on your face and that impact when you hit the floor is so powerful I feel like that, but I cannot seem to get back. I'm just laying here, it feels like there is this massive weight on top of me stopping me from getting up.

When you go through a tough time and it slow breaks you how do come out the other side? Is there always light at the end of the tunnel?

Sorry I don't want to go into too much detail about all the problems As I struggle with opening up so I know this all seems a little vague and difficult to understand but what advice would you give me? If you've been in my position what helped you? How did you help yourself?

 

Thanks so much for reading

[Betterwithout]

Thanks for posting. Welcome to ENA.

 

Everyone at some point in their lives hit a really tough spot. Some really see despair and for some they ask themselves why continue to live.

 

There are dozens of cliches ...ever heard the theme from the movie Annie? "the sun will come out tomorrow"

It's true when you hit "rock bottom" things can and will get better. The people that learn this well are the ones who have experienced disappointment often.

 

If you have the opportunity to get away from the person or thing that caused you to hit rock bottom. Focus every ounce of energy to get away from them or it.

If you don't have that opportunity, it will be more challenging and requires a lot of work to get over the emotional aspects of what ever caused you the pain.

 

I suggest writing down or typing a journal to get your grievances down on paper. Write down all the positive aspects of your life in this journal, and your pains.

Then make some lists of possible solutions.

Finally, make a list of the dreams you have, (they can be simple or complicated, don't worry, just write them down) as well as your passions.

What hobbies did you do as a young child you really liked. Is there a sport you want to try, a musical instrument you want to learn, a social club you want to join?

 

Do everything you can to get your mind off what happened to you, and fill your mind with good forward thinking thoughts.

That is the only way out of feeling at rock bottom. Stay away from drugs and alcohol and people that don't support your newfound thinking you generate from your journal.

 

Wish you the best of luck...it DOES get better. Keep your head up!

[Dahl]

Hello and welcome to the forum!

 

I'm sorry that you're going through such a tumultuous time. It does get better.

 

Top shelf advice from Betterwithout!

 

My only suggestion to add is from personal experience - when I was in your position and truly felt at a loss, I didn't know how to even help myself. My father made sure that I did volunteer work as a child and I remembered him stressing that if ever I didn't know how to help myself, I should gravitate to helping others all the same. I got involved again with essentially any and all volunteer opportunities I could find and it made an enormous difference to my perspective and overall interest and appreciation of my own life at once.

 

I'm glad you found us and I wish you luck!

[Matt3939]

It's not easy specially if you feel like there's no point. I just try to make goals that I know I most likely can achieve. Something bigger that alot of small things can leadup 2. I feel like I need something to work for to keep moving.

[catfeeder]

My private mantra became 'resilience," and I made it my goal to develop it. I invested my free time with family and friends, and since I couldn't enjoy much, I made it about them, not me. I wanted to create good memories for them and help them with errands, chores, meals or however else I could be useful. This kept me in 'normal' environments and situations instead of hiding and digging myself a deeper hole to climb out of.

 

Looking back, I should have hired a counselor and been treated for depression, but I managed to climb my way out. Committing my time to people I cared about kept me on the point to step up for them, and while I didn't feel like being 'on' and playing the entertainer, I could at least show up and let them drive our interactions. That made me a better listener. The desire to not worry them about me made me feign a mild cheerfulness that helped to cheer me up, and I ended up grateful for my experiences during this time.

 

Emotions follow behaviors, not the other way around. If I waited until I 'felt like' doing the things I did, I wouldn't have healed.

 

Head high, and write more if it helps.