Break up of holiday fling

[bobajob]

So i posted a couple of weeks back saying how i'd met a girl on holiday and i thought she was going cold, well turns out she was going cold. She blames the distance, which is pretty big, even though i was happy to make it work. I am really gutted, although not anywhere near as gutted as my previous ex even thought i liked this one more (weird hey?). I'm just not sure i can really be that gutted even though we spoke nearly every day we've only actually seen each other twice since we came back so i suppose i'm just annoyed that i'm feeling like this. How is it some people can just brush off a fling like this and people like me get pretty down about it? Is there anything i can do to stop this from happening?

[SherrySher]

Flings to most people aren't serious. If you want a woman to take you seriously, don't get in to bed asap and date her properly. Get to know her and build a really good friendship, go out for dinners, movies, etc. Take it slow and be romantic.

Flings are only for messing about and if you keep having them and doing the same things, you will get the same results.

It's a good idea to meet someone near by as well as holidays romances again aren't normally anything to count on and are usually just for fun.

[Maverick44]

Flings to most people aren't serious. If you want a woman to take you seriously, don't get in to bed asap and date her properly. Get to know her and build a really good friendship, go out for dinners, movies, etc. Take it slow and be romantic.

Flings are only for messing about and if you keep having them and doing the same things, you will get the same results.

It's a good idea to meet someone near by as well as holidays romances again aren't normally anything to count on and are usually just for fun.

 

Sounds good but I disagree.

 

For some, flings can mean nothing and for others they can. You have to know the type you are.

 

Also, you won't always get the same results with flings. They can sometimes lead to a deeper relationship. Sounds odd but I've had relationships start with flings and I've also had relationships not start with flings and the way SherrySer says. They had the same result.

 

Best of luck,

 

Maverick

[MissCanuck]

Flings are easy for most to brush off because they barely know you. There's no deep attachment.

 

Flings are generally based on lust and hormones and holiday excitement, but it's not usually a realistic prospect to keep it going when there is a big distance involved between your respective homes. Too much work for someone you don't know very well, for most.

[Wiseman2]

It sounds like you are not over your ex so this disappointment seems magnified because it provided a temporary relief for the pain.