intotheself Posted March 22, 2017 Share Posted March 22, 2017 I am going through a rough time and I'd appreciate your thoughts. I started online dating with a man in the 9 hour time difference zone, five months ago. After emailing for three months, we met in another country for a 6-day vacation and got along very well. Since we returned to our own countries, we have been in touch, whatsapping and video facetiming. In January, he booked his flight to see me in three months, that is, the end of April. He planned to stay with me for a month. He is self-employed. The trouble began two months ago, when he went on a business to a different country. He stopped video chatting, telling me that the wifi at his host's place is broken and he was relying on his mobile data only. I understoood and continued to texting only. No call or video call. Three weeks ago, I felt that his communication pattern changed for two days. That is, he was in a rush when I texted him and failed to reply to my text although I asked him to. He explained that his phone died. But I got very frustrated and asked him over the phone if he is with someone there. I had to do that because he called outside the house, although I was expecting him to call me IN the house at that time. The next day, he texted that he is taken aback by my call and is struggling to formulate what he is thinking and he is focusing on dealing with some other crisis at work. I dreaded the break up and wrote him an email of apology, also recounting my failed LDR experience five years ago, which contributed to my anxiety all the more. I ended my email with my wish that our LDR could work out. And I closed by writing, 'We are both very busy. Take your time and let us have some space.' Indeed, we are having the busiet time of the year. Since then, I haven't heard from him for three weeks. He was planning to visit me at the end of April, so I have about a month to wait, but have no idea what he is thinking. Does he think that it is me who should contact him again, as I wrote, "let us have some space.' Or was he completely turned off by my suspicion and decide to end our relationship? I was thinking of waiting until the first week of April and send him a text if he is ready to talk. He will have returned to him home country by then. Or should I wait until he reaches out to me? When a girl says 'let us have some space', how would a guy interprete it? I never wanted to hint a break up. How much space does he need? It's weird that I gave him even though he didn't actually asked for it. I thought we had better have some time to ourselves. Link to comment
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