NightLily Posted March 19, 2017 Share Posted March 19, 2017 I am looking for a general sounding board on how people in general would feel about this situation. It makes me uncomfortable but I am not sure if I am being just overly reactive and of course we have been involved for awhile now and it is hard to just walk away: Right now I am dating a man who is 29 and slowly details have come out that he was with a girl who was 18 about a year and a half ago. The area that I become uncomfortable is that he first met her when she was 15 and because they were both in the same music school, they became facebook contacts. Down the line, he reached out to her on facebook and they started talking regularly over text. A trip for a wedding brought him out her way across the country when she was a senior in high school. They decided to meet up and share a hotel room but he insists there was a couch so it wasn't intended to be sexual. I really have trouble believing that and it feels sugar coated. He tells me it was strictly platonic up to this point but it became physical. He had a long distance "thing" but not relationship with her where they met up a few times and he eventually cut it off. He says it was because of the age. What concerns me is that he was striking up an online dialogue and kept it going with a high schooler he barely knew. And also, that I feel like he wasn't very forth coming about it but, then again, when they met up it was legal. Something still makes me feel uncomfortable about it. A question about boundaries or maturity? Part of the issue for me, is that I can't even imagine trying to date a guy who is 21 and him and I are the same age. I would deeply appreciate hearing from other people's points of view on this. Would you be completely okay with this? Do you think I am overreacting? Or, do you think this is something I should take more seriously. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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