Should I keep talking to my ex?

[anonystuden11]

My ex boyfriend and I broke up after about 2 years in the summer before we went to uni across the world. When we broke up we tried not talking for about a week but then he msgd me and since then we've been talking everyday. We are best friends so it was hard for him to stop talking to me. We hook up with people in uni and that doesn't bother me but what has been bothering me is that I'm scared he will jump into a new relationship while we're still talking to each other. I've been getting really anxious cause I've been stalking and assuming that him and this girl have a thing going on. He told me he didn't want to be in a relationship anyone right now cause he enjoys being free but the feeling of assuming things is hard on me. So now Idk what to do, should I talk to him about my issues or should I just stop talking to him?

[Hollyj]

If you still have feelings, then you should not be friends. This is preventing you from moving on.

 

Don't waste another two years of your life.

[Wiseman2]

This is why you need to go no contact and block and delete him. Make other friends and stop using him or letting him use you as a crutch.

 

Why have meaningless sex with randoms instead of being emotionally available for dating/relationships?

 

You broke up. He can date, have sex and get in whatever relationships he wants. And so can you. Let go. It's time.

I'm scared he will jump into a new relationship while we're still talking to each other. I've been getting really anxious cause I've been stalking and assuming that him and this girl have a thing going on.

[AdviceBiscuit]

It's understandable why you’re having a hard time letting go. You dated for two years then broke up, assumedly because you would be in different parts of the world. It sounds like you broke up on good terms, so there's no reason for you to upset at him, since it was somewhat mutual. Breaking up because of distance doesn’t stop the feelings you both shared. I’m sure you always hear about people breaking and wanting to/getting back together. It’s much easier to stay with someone you know likes you rather than start over completely with someone else. Nobody likes being alone, and it can be scary.

 

However, it's difficult to keep up a close relationship when you're in different parts of the world, just as friends or otherwise. Both of you are refusing to let go, which is why he texts you constantly, and why you’re afraid of him finding someone else.

 

Trust me when I say that it is normal for you to not want your ex to have moved on from you. The fact that he is continuously texting you, but says he doesn't want anything serious is like having you and having his options open for when he does finds someone else.

 

He needs to let you go, and you need to be the one to push him away. Tell him that you need to move on, and that it's better for both of you to stop talking. Anytime you feel like checking up on him, distract yourself. Turn off the phone; walk away from the computer. Block him if you need to, and ask for help if you’re really having trouble. You’re only making yourself anxious, and you realize this. It will get easier though.

 

You have your whole life ahead of you to find someone special. You just need to stay strong and remember that you will find someone else. Someone better. Good luck, and remember:

You are not alone.

[Angel25]

Why it's bothering u he is with you bcoz u r just frnds..

Be clear to yourself n save u frm further pain dont try to convince yourself with wht u want.. u both hv broken up

I guess he is with u until he don't find someone to replace you..

[catfeeder]

Should I keep talking to my ex?

 

No. When someone dumps you, jump off of his radar and let him wonder what you've been up to.