Starshine Posted March 18, 2017 Share Posted March 18, 2017 Hi there I have a question regarding friendship and making friends. The thing is I've been an introvert most of my school life and haven't exactly been good at making friends. My father basically has been too controlling of whom I befriend and not and has always told me not to make friends/ not to tell them your secrets. Which has led me to not trusting people in the friend zone much... I had tried to make friends but I have had a few bad experiences (selfish-friends kind of). And that bad experience further led me into not trusting people... My problem is that One: I don't know how to make friends? Two: When I do, they only want to be friends with me for my knowledge, homework.. etc. (I am smart) but I hate people using me for work alone and after their motif is complete they do not wish to keep in touch... ( I have also grown up to be on the charming side of things, (So girls either grow jealous, or just befriend me for work... and guys they want to be friends hoping to be more than that...) During the years of being disappointed in the department. I have realized that it's of no use. I have established myself as an independent person and do not need any friends. But once in a while I feel sad... Like when I really do need someone of my own age to talk to... I feel like I am the one lacking here, like I'm missing having that part of life... Maybe it's something I did wrong, maybe I lack the skills Where I come from there is a saying that "Instead of having a selfish friend, it's better to have none at all" I guess I'm following that I don't know why... but sometimes I feel unsure about this all? Any ideas? Link to comment
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