foreverdancer Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 okay so let's start things off. don't wanna come off as paranoid but i'm a little too bothered. i'm a 21 y/o girl i've been going out with a 28 y/o guy for the past several days but ummm i have serious doubts about his sexuality. he's supposedly straight. however: 1) after i met him i told a friend i fancied him. he replied "oh, i think he might be gay though." now i usually won't believe statements like that but this friend of mine has an ability to read people's behavior, body language, etc very well. 2) after he had met my friends he asked me if so-and-so was gay "because he usually can't tell" or something like that. 3) one time we were talking about taylor swift (he said that he likes taylor swift) and he mentioned a certain song and said that straightness aside, he finds the guy in the video attractive. he also told me when we were watching a movie that he had a man crush on a certain actor. (he has also mentioned a few crushes on female celebrities though) 4) one time a britney spears song (the newest one) played in his car. 5) we were talking about his cousin whom i knew and he told me that a gay friend of hers had a crush on him and tried to flirt with him aggressively at a bar. that's not a lot of evidence but here are some facts which may or may not help: - he dresses well but definitely nothing too over the top. - he has progressive political views regarding the lgbtq (and also everything else like abortion). he's also pretty smart, sophisticated, and cultured. - he's in politics and comes from an old political family. - all of his exes are female. - he has went out with a girl my age who goes to the same school as me. - we started hanging out 4 days ago and we've seen each other every day since, with him always messaging immediately after we go out and making plans for the next day. well maybe this might be because he's only in my city for 2-3 days a week at a time. but it's definitely new for me. he messages me all the time on messenger and when we see each other we have good long conversations, to the point where we've already talked a lot about our lives. surprisingly he hasn't tried to really touch me or make a move or anything (honestly expected that to happen quickly given the age and power difference and all). what do you think?? so far i'm starting to like him and he's way different and above the other boys i've dated, but i can't shake off this nagging feeling that he might be, i don't know, gay or bi, or something else. also i tried to state these facts as objectively and with as little personal speculation as possible because i want you to make an opinion based on "raw data" so to speak. Link to comment
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