JaneyR Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 So I met a guy at a course and I felt like we clicked right away. He gave me all the signs that he’s interested, such as coming to talk to me every break from class out of other people in the group, looking straight into my eyes and leaning in when we spoke, he texted me a few times and every time on the way home when we parted ways he gave me a very embracive hug, and I mean very, and a kiss on the cheek, which he didn’t to with my other girl friends who were there. Generally he was very flirty, commented things like we were a good match or that ot was a sign that we were both planning to visit the same place abroad. The course consisted of only a few classes, and when it ended he said I’d see him again, he was very confident about it. But then I heard nothing from him. I texted him after a week and he responded and was very nice and flirty, sending kisses emojis and stuff, but we didn’t chat for long and since then he didn’t initiate anything. Two weeks later I ran into him in a complete coinsidence and he seemed happy to see me, offered to walk me where I was heading despite it being the opposite direction he was heading, and when we parted ways he did the hug and the kiss thing, and said “text me every once in a while, let me know what’s up”. Why act that way with me but never make an effort to stay in touch? Any ideas if he meant what he said? Did he really want me to text him? In case this matters- I didnt text him and a week later I ran into him AGAIN. But this time he was less enthusiastic and a little distant and I wondered if it had something to do with the fact I didn't text. Maybe he really expected me to? Lastly, there's something I wish I could say to him: "Hey, so listen, I honestly dont know whats going on now but I wanted to say, we may have not talked a lot and we dont really know each other, but from the conversations we did have I gathered I kinda liked you. We didnt keep in touch and so I figured it was probably not mutual, but Im also a little confused by your attitude toward me, youve sent some mixed signals. So I'm coming to you knowing you can never really read a person and know how they saw things. If by any chance you felt there was something there too, and think that it's worth a try, Id love to give it one and maybe we could get together some time. If I just got the whole situation wrong, that's completely fine and we can friendly say our goodbyes. Either way, it was nice meeting you " Do you think it may have all been a misunderstanding and he could be interested? Is it a good idea to send this to him? Please help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vesper Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 No, do not send him that message. He is being a little bit shady , I would cut all contact and move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 It sounds like he's just being friendly. Does he have a gf? No do not text him a "relationship talk" because not only are you not in a relationship, he never asked you on a date. He's not confusing you, he's just being friendly. said “text me every once in a while, let me know what’s up”. Do you think it may have all been a misunderstanding and he could be interested? Is it a good idea to send this to him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reinventmyself Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 Don't send the message! What are his actions telling you? That's your answer. You don't need to grill a guy that has done nothing more than flirt with you. You haven't even been on a date and he's giving you mixed messages. Mixed messages mean - unavailable. That's all you need to know. Whenever you find yourself confused by someone's behavior like this. . All you need to know is they aren't the one for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IAmFCA Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 Do not send message. If you are intent on testing his interest, just ask him out. To me, he sounds like all talk no action. Who knows why, maybe he has a gf, or he thinks he cant afford to date properly, or he is only into things that dont require him to be responsible. Its a way of transferring the risk and responsibility to you. Do you want that? Id drop him. He told you to keep in touch, like its on you. Not, "lets keep in touch." Im thinking " Yeah, whatever." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaneyR Posted March 15, 2017 Author Share Posted March 15, 2017 Thank you guys! I guess that's what I needed to hear, since it's been bothering me and your comments help me realize I need to forget about him and move on Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 " What does the above mean? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaneyR Posted March 15, 2017 Author Share Posted March 15, 2017 Idk, for some reason it appeared when I used quotation marks or skipped a line. Couldn't delete it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nutbrownhare Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 " What does the above mean? It means an HTML gremlin's crept into the visual's box! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katrina1980 Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 " What does the above mean? I thought it meant auto-correct went a bit kaplooey and the poster didn't bother to read and edit the post before submitting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nutbrownhare Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 I thought it meant auto-correct went a bit kaplooey and the poster didn't bother to read and edit the post before submitting. In all seriousness, it's HTML (hyper text markup language), which tells the computer how to display the type. On blog sites you can often switch between the text as it appears and the same message in HTML. Sometimes it's only possible to edit certain things in HTML. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaneyR Posted March 16, 2017 Author Share Posted March 16, 2017 Haha I actually bothered. Just couldn't get rid of it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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