jmil94 Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 Next month will be a year and a half my girlfriend and I have been together, and its been a great year and a half. Filled with holidays, breaks away and just real great memories together. We are very much in love with each other, and soon looking to buy a property. However, there is not a day that goes by, that I don't think about her past sexual partners, and I don't know how to sort this out. I've seen a therapist, bought books and spent countless hours online to try and find help. Now I am sure you are wondering why am I bothered, and why did I even need to know? Firstly, we both come from a small area, where everyone knows everybody, and there isn't a single person that has not had some relationship or sexual history with someone you may know. I wasn't very interested in the beginning, mainly because of her reputation and things I heard, I guess my intentions were to get one thing from her at the time. Soon enough I took her out and we began seeing each other. The question eventually was asked which was about her past. Now, I know some people may argue why would you need to know?! Please consider what I wrote earlier, we come from a small town, and I heard things, I needed to know what was true and what wasn't. The last thing I'd want would be to hear she had slept with someone later on down the line. It needed to be out in the open. So she told me, and I was fine...in the beginning. As time went on, more questions were asked, fall outs began and so did the arguments. After a long long period of time I began understand certain things. She was young, wasn't shown much guidance from her parents, followed the crowed etc etc. I can weigh up the pros and cons, bottom line is I love her and would like to spend the rest of my life with her. She is a beautiful person and I really don't think I could do better. So what do I do? Continue my life with her, think about her past sexual partners everyday (whom of which I know and would normally have a chat to) and hope one day the thoughts I have will fade...or make the decision to finish the relationship, which is something I really do not want to do. thanks for reading. I would like to add, I really do try and not think about it, and avoid certain 'triggers'. Such as avoiding going into town, going to my local pub, not being on social media etc. To try and avoid bumping into one of her past sexual partners. Link to comment
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