denzelwashing Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 Hi Folks, I've been in a relationship with an amazing guy for the past 1.5 years. He is good-looking, smart, supportive, compassionate, has a great job, has a beautiful/selfless soul, etc. I wasn't immediately drawn to him sexually when we first met, but I began falling in love with him the moment I started getting to know him. He is a wonderful and decent guy who loves me wholly. Needless to say, I'm happy and feel relatively fulfilled in this relationship. The only issue is that I'm not totally physically turned on by him. As I said, he's definitely attractive, but I rarely have the urge to rip his clothes off and take him to bed. Our sex is fulfilling and fairly frequent (2 or 3 times per week), but it isn't super hot "blow my mind" kind of sex. I by no means dislike our sex, it's definitely enjoyable, but I'm not super horny for my boyfriend. I'm making a concerted effort to not let my mind roam, but when it does I rarely fantasize about my boyfriend. I think about tall, chiseled, unattainable-type guys when I pleasure myself, and I "check out" hot guys when I'm out on the street going about my business. Now don't get me wrong, most people would consider my boyfriend more attractive than average, but for some reason I'm not super turned on by him. I am in such a dilemma because I think I really love this guy, and he's the only person I've ever really connected with in a relationship sense. I've been way more attracted to other guys I've been with, but I wouldn't want to spend time with them or date them. I'd like to get feedback from people on how important attraction and sex is in a relationship. I've dated guys who I would dream about having sex with, but would have no interest in fostering a real relationship with. I don't want to end my relationship, but I also don't want to string my man along and then one day realize that I need more in the bedroom. Is it unfair for me to stay in this relationship when there's someone out there who would be itching to rip my man's clothes off every night? Do I deserve a relationship in which I feel 100% satisfied in every aspect? Does such a relationship exist? Are there any experienced people out there who can advise me? Would I be making a grave mistake if I ended this relationship? How important is "blow your mind sex"? Does your partner need to be your perfect type physically in order to foster a long term relationship? Should I want to rip my boyfriends clothes off every time I see him? If I'm satisfied in every aspect of my relationship, but a little under-enthused in the bedroom is that a major issue? Thanks in advance for your input! Sincerely, Torn Link to comment
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