Butterflyxx Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 Hi everyone. So me and my boyfriend last night was in a conversation regarding sex etc and he told me he watches porn. I'm not jealous or anything by this as I know that many men do, however due to my immaturity and lack of understanding of the subject, I'm concerned if it means he doesn't find me sexually attractive anymore or is bored, and if him watching porn is a warning sign. I don't know how many times he does this btw. We've been together for a while, he's 19, we see one another 3-4 times a week and we don't have sex the majority of the time as we still live with our parents, but we still do things 90% of the time we see each other e.g blow job etc. My boyfriend also said he doesn't masterbate to me the majority of the time because he doesn't have any photos of me, whereas on the past & on his old phone he did, he said that's why he watches porn more. If anyone can give me insight into this situation, if I'm just worrying about our relationship over nothing & if it's normal that guys watch porn, or if it's a warning sign. Thanks in advance! Link to comment
Dahl Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 my boyfriend.. told me he watches porn. My boyfriend said he doesn't masterbate to me Why did he tell you these things? Is he pressing you to have sex with him more often / send him pictures of yourself? Link to comment
SherrySher Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 Many men watch porn, it does not signal that he doesn't find you attractive. The majority of the time it only means he has a healthy appetite for sex. Men are very visual creatures and it really is just about watching a show, but it doesn't take away his attraction for you or his closeness to you. The only time it might be a problem, is if he chooses porn even though you are right there and could have sex with you but is glued to the tv instead. But if that's not the case, you have nothing to worry about. Link to comment
Butterflyxx Posted March 13, 2017 Author Share Posted March 13, 2017 Why did he tell you these things? Is he pressing you to have sex with him more often / send him pictures of yourself? No no not at all. I was the one to ask about it, and he's not like that. He was just telling me generally that he used to masterbate to pictures of me when he had his old phone, but now he has a new one he doesn't have any pictures of me & so he watches porn instead! I don't mind about the picture thing anyway, I trust him completely & we've been together 2 years. Link to comment
Butterflyxx Posted March 13, 2017 Author Share Posted March 13, 2017 Many men watch porn, it does not signal that he doesn't find you attractive. The majority of the time it only means he has a healthy appetite for sex. Men are very visual creatures and it really is just about watching a show, but it doesn't take away his attraction for you or his closeness to you. The only time it might be a problem, is if he chooses porn even though you are right there and could have sex with you but is glued to the tv instead. But if that's not the case, you have nothing to worry about. Thank you for that, it has cleared a lot of stuff up. When we are together, the majority of the time we do sexual things, there are of course times when we just sit and talk the whole night and don't do anything, so it varies. Link to comment
Dahl Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 No no not at all!! I was the one to ask about it, and he's not like that! He was just telling me generally that he used to masterbate to pictures of me when he had his old phone, but now he has a new one he doesn't have any pictures of me & so he watches porn instead! I don't mind about the picture thing anyway, I trust him completely & we've been together 2 years. Oh, good! I'm with SherrySher. It doesn't remotely reflect on you. And clearly he feels very comfortable with you to discuss such intimate matters so openly. I think that you are in the clear. Good luck. Link to comment
jujusamples Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 I think it's normal that your boyfriend watches porn! You two are still young, it's pretty common. I remember my guy friends when I was your age, they all watch it. Nothing to worry about. You will only have to worry if he has an addiction to it, as in him watching 24/7. Link to comment
Butterflyxx Posted March 13, 2017 Author Share Posted March 13, 2017 Oh, good! I'm with SherrySher. It doesn't remotely reflect on you. And clearly he feels very comfortable with you to discuss such intimate matters so openly. I think that you are in the clear. Good luck. Thank you for your input! We haven't really spoken about porn before, maybe once before years ago when he told me he didn't need to watch it as he had me (back when he had more pictures), so now I have a better understanding I'm not too concerned! Link to comment
Butterflyxx Posted March 13, 2017 Author Share Posted March 13, 2017 I think it's normal that your boyfriend watches porn! You two are still young, it's pretty common. I remember my guy friends when I was your age, they all watch it. Nothing to worry about. You will only have to worry if he has an addiction to it, as in him watching 24/7. Thank you. I am not too sure as to how many times he watches it, I presume maybe once a day, as he also told me he wakes up with a boner and sometimes masterbates to get rid of it, and 3-4 times a week I see him so we do things then. Is once a day, maybe once every few days an average amount for him to watch porn? Or is that addictive? (I'm not 100% sure on the exact amount, he may just watch it a few times a week I'm not sure) Link to comment
Dahl Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 Thank you for your input! We haven't really spoken about porn before, maybe once before years ago when he told me he didn't need to watch it as he had me (back when he had more pictures), so now I have a better understanding I'm not too concerned! Like SherrySher noted, perhaps he's enjoying a surplus of sexual interest and that is why he's more keen on porn at the moment - which, if this is the case, may be because of the interactions between the two of you, something that would attest to his attraction to you, not the opposite in my opinion. Link to comment
Butterflyxx Posted March 13, 2017 Author Share Posted March 13, 2017 Like SherrySher noted, perhaps he's enjoying a surplus of sexual interest and that is why he's more keen on porn at the moment - which, if this is the case, may be because of the interactions between the two of you, something that would attest to his attraction to you, not the opposite in my opinion. I'm not sure if he's always watched porn throughout our relationship or if it's a new things. At the start of our relationship 2 years ago, we would meet once a week and then we would text in a sexual manner a few times a week, including pictures. Currently, we see one another 3-4 times a week, the majority of the time doing 'stuff', but when we aren't together he doesn't have any pictures of me to use, and therefore he says resorts to porn instead. Link to comment
jujusamples Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 Thank you. I am not too sure as to how many times he watches it, I presume maybe once a day, as he also told me he wakes up with a boner and sometimes masterbates to get rid of it, and 3-4 times a week I see him so we do things then. Is once a day, maybe once every few days an average amount for him to watch porn? Or is that addictive? (I'm not 100% sure on the exact amount, he may just watch it a few times a week I'm not sure) Also common to get a boner first thing in the morning. It really doesn't sound like an addiction to me. I don't think you have much to worry about. Plus, if he has a porn addiction problem, he wouldn't even tell you he watches it. He will do whatever it takes to be secretive. He's open and honest about so, nothing to worry. If he obsessively talks about than it's a different story, but as from what I read in your thread, doesn't sound like it. Link to comment
Butterflyxx Posted March 13, 2017 Author Share Posted March 13, 2017 Also common to get a boner first thing in the morning. It really doesn't sound like an addiction to me. I don't think you have much to worry about. Plus, if he has a porn addiction problem, he wouldn't even tell you he watches it. He will do whatever it takes to be secretive. He's open and honest about so, nothing to worry. If he obsessively talks about than it's a different story, but as from what I read in your thread, doesn't sound like it. Thank you for your insight! Relieved any worries I had. He doesn't talk about it hardly at all, mainly because I believe he wouldn't know how I'd feel about it and he sounded a tiny bit uncomfortable or embarrassed when we spoke about it last night, but he made a joke out of watching it, that he sometimes laughs at certain parts of porn. So all in all I'm not concerned anymore, thank you. Link to comment
Matt3939 Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 As a guy I can only speak for myself but I'm sure I'm not alone. It has absolutely no reflection on you and is totally separate from the relationship. Link to comment
Butterflyxx Posted March 13, 2017 Author Share Posted March 13, 2017 As a guy I can only speak for myself but I'm sure I'm not alone. It has absolutely no reflection on you and is totally separate from the relationship. Thank you Matt! Link to comment
WithLove Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 Porn is normal. Him masturbating to it is also normal.... it's a way for him to be selfish in a way he shouldn't be when he's with you. Unless he pointedly choose porn and masturbating over you (like it's making a difference in your normal sex life), it's not any problem. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 Why keep talking about this? Just enjoy whatever sexuality you two have together. Porn and your looks are unrelated.he's 19, we see one another 3-4 times a week and we don't have sex the majority of the time as we still live with our parents, but we still do things 90% of the time we see each other e.g blow job etc. Link to comment
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