Pregnant with ex boyfriends baby, help

[tgreer1]

What joy having a baby is supposed to be, especially when you are supposed to be infertile?

 

Well, earlier this week my friend finally convinced me to take a pregnancy test after badgering over it for a couple weeks. I just was doing it to prove her wrong, when in reality I proved her right. If I can calculate this well enough, I should be anywhere from 8 to 12 weeks. Exciting, right? Well, not for me. Considering that this baby is my ex boyfriends, the one that I still love with every ounce of me, but loves to remind me that its over and we cant ever be together because he just doesn't want to be with anyone. (after we were together, living together for two years) I told him after my best friend convinced me it to be the right thing to do. well, yesterday after the fight from the two nights before and me ignoring him for the day, I updated him on my first appointment/possible size of baby/and my second test also being instantly positive. He then proceeded to thank me for the information but said we needed to talk. He wants me, him, and his friend to get a place together. He doesn't want another man being the first man in our baby's life- even though I told him I'm done giving my heart to men. He said he would respect my space, that he wouldn't bring women home, that I could even quit my job and he would handle the bills with his friend so I can care for our baby. As great as all that sounds, I'm terrified to do that. The fact whether he brings women home or not wont stop the pain and hurt I feel towards him. I love him, and seeing my broken family living in the same home again but not together, hurts. I know I have to do whats best for LW (Little Warrior), but I don't know if I could deal with the pain of staring Eli in the face everyday, seeing him with the dream we both used to discuss together, but apart. But I also know with my parents already wanting me out because there is no room with the current 5 in our house, when they find out about LW they really will want me gone. I just don't know what to do.

[Wiseman2]

Your choices are stay with your parents or get your own place with roommates or move in with him and his friend. Do you work?

He wants me, him, and his friend to get a place together. He said he would respect my space, that he wouldn't bring women home, that I could even quit my job and he would handle the bills with his friend so I can care for our baby. my parents already wanting me out because there is no room with the current 5 in our house, when they find out about LW they really will want me gone.

[melancholy123]

Is adoption an option? You dont sound ready for a child.

[Dahl]

Have you discussed your situation with your doctor? They are a good source of information and guidance on these other aspects, frequently, as well.

 

I echo melancholy's suggestion as a viable alternative to consider. Good luck.

[tgreer1]

I have a job, its minimum wage and my boss is trying to find anyway to fire me, so no doubt she will try when I tell her I'm pregnant. Parents want to kick me out as is because 'we don't have enough room for your brothers, us, and you." I've been trying to get my own place with my own friend, but I don't have many friends- only 3, and the two who can go out on their own don't want to live with a baby. unless I can afford a place by myself (which is unlikely) I may have no choice. I was talking to this guy I look up to at work and he said I need to have a sit down with the father and discuss a plan because I need to do what's best for not just LW but me too as well. Adoption is not an option, this may be my only child and I'm not giving them up- I know I will do my best for him/her. I just, I still love their father, so I don't know how I'll handle living with him. We were fine for the two years we were together, but now its a different situation; and I have always been a person to follow feelings and I know that that could cause more pain.