shaikah Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 hello, my name is shaikah I'm 23 years old.. Living in Dubai so..... I met my ex boyfriend when we were so young, I've been with him for 6 years.. he was my first love, I still love him so much, he broke up with me on October 2016... with no reason I didn't contact him till Januray 2017, (I MOVED ON) on Januray he started calling me and texting me saying that he loves me and he misses me and he wants to get back to each other (AND I TOLD HIM THE SAME) he started reminding me of the good old days... after few weeks he started ignoring me when i asked him whats wrong he told me lets just be friends after that, on Feburary he called me saying "my friends birthday is on Friday and you're invited bla bla bla..." I went to the dinner party, and I was like ignoring him the whole time and having fun with the others, end of the party he told me I still have feelings for you.. I think we should get back together... I was soooo happy I even cried and then he hugged me.. I didnt wanna show him that.. after few weeks he started to ignore me again I told him what's wrong with you? why aren't we talking anymore? he told me I think we cannot make it.. I told him U DIDNT EVEN TRYYYYY to say that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! anyways... from 2 weeks I'm trying to talk to him everyday, with goodnight/goodmorning text and almost everything but hes responding with really short texts like he dont wanna talk to me he's pushing me away... he hurt me so much.. but I forgive him after all... I really love him and I can't imagine him with someone else.. I tried talking to other guys but I couldn't handle it... im not interested in anyone else only him.. I just need him back.. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 It sounds like you're still talking. Do you still see each other? he broke up with me on October 2016... with no reason after few weeks he started to ignore me again I told him what's wrong with you? from 2 weeks I'm trying to talk to him everyday, with goodnight/goodmorning text but hes responding with really short texts. Link to comment
shaikah Posted March 12, 2017 Author Share Posted March 12, 2017 It sounds like you're still talking. Do you still see each other? I start the conversation ALWAYS.. last time I saw him was before 2 weeks.. everytime I ask him to meet he make an excuses.. + you know.. everytime I see him he keeps telling me that he loves me, starts flirting with me and enjoy the night like old days.. Link to comment
shaikah Posted March 12, 2017 Author Share Posted March 12, 2017 It sounds like you're still talking. Do you still see each other? It's just like I'm begging him to get back together and chasing him!!! today he told me IT WILL NEVER WORK MOVE ON!! I change the subject by did u have ur dinner? I FORGIVE HIM AFTER ALL HES DRIVING ME CRAZY EVEN IF HE HURT ME WITH HIS ACTIONS Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 Ok then go no contact so he can miss and respect you.today he told me IT WILL NEVER WORK MOVE ON!! Link to comment
shaikah Posted March 12, 2017 Author Share Posted March 12, 2017 Ok then go no contact so he can miss and respect you. I'm planning to see him this weekend.. I waited so long & I miss him like crazyyyyyy I think I'll do the no contact after the weekend... Link to comment
ElCrazay Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 Can't say my advice is worth much considering my own situation but no contact is what everyone says people should do...do it for yourself. You got to learn to live alone, and make yourself happy. Maybe he will come back, maybe he won't but you need the no contact. And trust me, this no contact is gonna be tough. Link to comment
shaikah Posted March 12, 2017 Author Share Posted March 12, 2017 Can't say my advice is worth much considering my own situation but no contact is what everyone says people should do...do it for yourself. You got to learn to live alone, and make yourself happy. Maybe he will come back, maybe he won't but you need the no contact. And trust me, this no contact is gonna be tough. I tried the no contact for 3 months and it worked.. he came back but do u think if i did it again " the no contact" he will come back again im his first love.. I know that he still loves me but he dont wanna show it i dont know why i want him to see that no other girl will love / care / appreciates him as much as I do.. I told him that today.... and his respond was "oh really" ? I told him cant u notice that I'm trying my best he told me I'm ur ex.. do u know what it means? we cant be together like before I told him u didnt even try ... and then he ignored me Link to comment
Iggy5129 Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 You need to move on. Rarely does young love work out. Take some time to yourself to get over it. When you are ready date other men and you will see he really wasn't that great. It just takes time. But you really need to block and ignore him not to get him back but to heal yourself. Link to comment
No1 Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 Shaikah... Be honest. You are not looking for advice what you should do, you are looking for someone to tell you what you want to hear. You could get the best advice but you wont listen because you love your X so much and no matter how badly he treats you, you will instantly forgive him. I think you are always going to be the 2nd choice. He is out there looking for a better girl and when he is lonely, sad, depressed or wants to feel attractive and needed, he is going to come to you. Not because you are the best or the first, but because you are the most available. He doesnt want a relationship with you, he wants you when he wants you. Unitl you find the strength to let him go, the cycle will continue. Good luck. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 You need to stop chasing him, texting him, hanging out with him. Believe him when he says it's over. he told me I'm ur ex.. do u know what it means? we cant be together like before ... and then he ignored me Link to comment
shaikah Posted March 13, 2017 Author Share Posted March 13, 2017 You need to stop chasing him, texting him, hanging out with him. Believe him when he says it's over. I know that he will change his mind I can't move on.... I need him back.... Link to comment
shaikah Posted March 13, 2017 Author Share Posted March 13, 2017 You need to move on. Rarely does young love work out. Take some time to yourself to get over it. When you are ready date other men and you will see he really wasn't that great. It just takes time. But you really need to block and ignore him not to get him back but to heal yourself. I'm not ready for any other men... no one understands me/know me as mush as he do.. Link to comment
shaikah Posted March 13, 2017 Author Share Posted March 13, 2017 Shaikah... Be honest. You are not looking for advice what you should do, you are looking for someone to tell you what you want to hear. You could get the best advice but you wont listen because you love your X so much and no matter how badly he treats you, you will instantly forgive him. I think you are always going to be the 2nd choice. He is out there looking for a better girl and when he is lonely, sad, depressed or wants to feel attractive and needed, he is going to come to you. Not because you are the best or the first, but because you are the most available. He doesnt want a relationship with you, he wants you when he wants you. Unitl you find the strength to let him go, the cycle will continue. Good luck. I was thinking like as u said.. it's so true, when Ill start ignoring him.. like I did before he wil come back.. now he's acting like the most wanted-hot guy and all the girls wants him but he will never find a girl like me.. and I know that, im sure 100% when I'll be not interested in him he will come back.. Link to comment
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