charmensah Posted March 9, 2017 Posted March 9, 2017 I met my so 1 1/2 years ago on line . He was up front about many things including he was jyst diagnosed with cancer and a psycho supposed ex girlfriend. 1st month we were together she was calling me daily for a week but since i was at work i couldnt answer she stopped calling. This past july 4 she started xalling me stirring the pot claiming hes her man hes been lying cheating on both of us its over with them she ended ir. Asked me personal questions. I had to file charges locally to get her to stop calling me. She lives in Massachusetts. SO lives in Ny i live in Pa. That was a huge blow out that we eventually overcame. Now here she is again contacting me again saying they were together that he bought her all this expensive stuff dinner out all night sex blah blah blah. So of course i called him yelling and screaming breaking it off which i really dont want to do but we were both angry and said stuff verbally and by text we shouldn't have. Im very talkative and open hes very quiet and private when hes mad stressed in pain he gets mad stays that way a few days and ignores me and situation where ad i i want the blow up time to get over it and move on. My questions sre do i stay and out up with it brcause from beginning i knew what i was getting. Or leave? Im confused hurt angry already have anxiety and depression this whole thing is killing besides that ex is creating doubts for me. Can anyone shed light on this for me?
Wiseman2 Posted March 9, 2017 Posted March 9, 2017 Sorry to hear this. How often do you see each other? How did she get your number and why is he allowing all this? Why haven't you deleted and blocked her from everything since your bf won't lift a finger to create boundaries and end it with her? Unfortunately you may want to take her word for it since your bf doesn't seem to have boundaries or try to get her out of the picture.He was up front about many things including he was jyst diagnosed with cancer and a psycho supposed ex girlfriend. She lives in Massachusetts. SO lives in Ny i live in Pa. she was calling me daily. she started claiming hes her man hes been lying cheating on both of us. I had to file charges locally to get her to stop calling me. Now here she is again contacting me again saying they were together that he bought her all this expensive stuff dinner out all night sex blah blah blah. So of course i called him yelling and screaming breaking it off.
charmensah Posted March 9, 2017 Author Posted March 9, 2017 I have blocked her she uses a different phone number. She originally got it from cell bill b4 he took himself off
Wiseman2 Posted March 9, 2017 Posted March 9, 2017 They are still very much involved, sorry.I have blocked her she uses a different phone number. She originally got it from cell bill b4 he took himself off
charmensah Posted March 9, 2017 Author Posted March 9, 2017 He claims shes psycho abd its true but i as well blame him because if he truly loved me not her he would continue to allow her to blindside me and harrass me and him
charmensah Posted March 9, 2017 Author Posted March 9, 2017 We see each other every 2 to 3 weeks due ti work schedules talk at least 1 time daily
Wiseman2 Posted March 9, 2017 Posted March 9, 2017 Agree. She's in the picture still because he wants her to be. Consider all these red flags not to mention a LDR and barely seeing or communicating with each other. Perhaps this is a wake up call that it's time to move on after 1.5 years of going nowhere but crazy. You could do much better finding a nice local sane guy, right?He claims shes psycho abd its true but i as well blame him because if he truly loved me not her he would continue to allow her to blindside me and harrass me and him
Matt3939 Posted March 9, 2017 Posted March 9, 2017 I think it matters just how crazy she is. If he completely cut her off. Then she continues these behaviours. I don't see a way of him stopping it. If he's still talking to her in any form then it is on him.
charmensah Posted March 9, 2017 Author Posted March 9, 2017 Im tired of being hurt he was the,1 person i let in my life hes also now the last im done
SherrySher Posted March 9, 2017 Posted March 9, 2017 I'm sorry but I am having a hard time swallowing this. To me, it sounds like they are involved and he is the one who won't stop going to her. If this was legit that he was not with her, no way would she have gotten your number, and secondly, he would be doing something to put an end to it once and for all, even if it meant getting the police involved. This guy has two girls going and he's not stopping any of it.
ParisPaulette Posted March 9, 2017 Posted March 9, 2017 Bottom line, you are caught in the middle of a love triangle. Whether it's that he is playing you both OR that she is truly stalking him and a serious problem doesn't matter. You are not there to see for yourself what's going on, and that's a major problem. AND even more of a problem, he has not taken the necessary steps to get her handled once and for all be it a restraining order, a lawsuit against her, police reports, etc. IF that's really the problem and not just his way of making her seem crazy, so you won't listen to her. In every case it sounds like you are the only one who has taken steps against her, but regardless why are you putting up with this. If it were me I would already have bowed out due to the drama and told him to go handle her, you are done, you're out. Otherwise sure, enjoy being in a Jerry Springer episode, but I have the feeling since he clams up and won't talk to you and won't handle anything, that she is more likely telling the truth. If she were really a problem, he would have taken the necessary steps with law enforcement and/or an attorney and you would know about it. I would dump him and enjoy the silence and then block them both. It just sounds like too much drama and stress, and it doesn't sound like the pleasure you get is enough to outweigh that. It's your life, do you really want to waste it looking over your shoulder no matter why that is?
charmensah Posted March 9, 2017 Author Posted March 9, 2017 Ty i know you are right just needed to hear it from someone else
Wiseman2 Posted March 9, 2017 Posted March 9, 2017 Agree 100% with this 6768862]making her seem crazy, so you won't listen to her.
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