Housemates avoiding me

[Steffiey]

I currently live with my: Ex, friend, and my best friend (Currently my partner).

 

My Ex and the friend gets along very well.

 

My Ex is an incredibly manipulative person with sociopathic traits.

He recently wanted a 'talk' with me, in an attempt to get back with me. At this point I began dating my best friend who was there thick and thin.

 

During this conversation I talked emotionlessly that I'm moving out in July and nothing he says will change that. This was the very first time I stood up for myself against him.

He was breaking down in front of me, in tears, falling on the floor shouting at me to call the friend that's our housemate.

 

She came downstairs and took care of him, then telling me to get out of the room.

 

From the next day onwards they both started to act strangely around me. my friend was clearly trying to avoid me in class and at home. She used to be a chatterbox around me and now she doesn't say a word.

My ex still tries to degrade me very very subtly.

My assumptions are that after I left for the two to sort him out that day, it gave them an impression as if I was a horrible person making him feel crap. In other words, he may have succeeded in turning my friend against me.

My friend knows nothing about what I had to go through during the relationship.

 

My best friend however knows absolutely everything and has been there to support me all the way.

 

I live with all of these people, and there's nothing I can do about the two thinking of me as a bad person- but because I used to be friends with the girl, it upsets me.

 

I do feel terribly sorry for her having to live with him and two other guys next year.

 

But at the moment I struggle feeling comfortable and safe in the house without my best friend around me.

 

I was wondering what would be the best thing to do in this situation.

 

Thank you.

[j.man]

Just chalk it up to a crappy situation and move out come July.

 

Sorry, but it's a lot of drama and the house environment is pretty much ruined. Not necessarily blaming you, but it is what it is. It happens.

[agent1607307371]

He has definitely spun her a story. I had a bf who did exactly the same thing - he was cheating on me and had everyone convinced that I was a terrible person and they all supported him.

 

Honestly, she's not your friend, he's not a good person. She'll find out who he is when he turns on her. And hopefully you'll be long gone. Is there any way you can move out before July?

[Iggy5129]

So you broke up with him and then started dating another housemate in front of his face? That's pretty cold hearted.

 

What exactly was it that he did to you to deserve this cruel treatment? Maybe your friend just realized that what you're doing is messed up? If you wanted to date the other guy at least move out first.

[Wiseman2]

Did this shift from one roommate being the bf to another being the bf take place while you all lived together? Do you think your ex and your female friend are hooking up?

 

It may be best to avoid the place as much as possible to minimize the drama. Study at the library, hang out at friends places', get an extra course or part time job, volunteer. The less you are there with your ex and your female friend hanging out together, the better.

I currently live with my: Ex, friend, and Current partner. She came downstairs and took care of him, then telling me to get out of the room.From the next day onwards they both started to act strangely around me.

[HeartGoesOn]

I'm trying to figure out how/why you're living with both your ex-boyfriend, and your current boyfriend? I'm not trying to minimize your question as to why your friend is ignoring you, but this living situation sounds like a 3 ring circus.

 

In short, your main focus should be getting out of there ASAP.