Should I have no contact?

[Teddylover]

I have been dating, my now ex partner, for three years. We lived together, worked together and pretty much spent all of our time together. So that was problem number one. He broke up with me 2 months back and I hooked up with a mutual friend, as I thought it was done for good. And just wanted to get over him. It was the stupidest thing I have ever done, and I have definitely learnt my lesson from it. We then got back together again after this, a week into dating again, I told him what happened. He didn’t talk to me for a few days, but then said he wants to work on things because he cares so much. One month on from that (we are still acting the same way towards each other, as what we did before it happened) he is now saying he wants to just be friends. And that he can’t get over what has happened. He wants to continue to act the way towards each other as we do at the moment. Just without affection and having a commitment to me. Does he just want to be single and get with other girls? I don’t know if it’s best to cut all ties and have no contact or to see where things go and see if there is a possibility of a relationship again? I care and love him more than anything. I want to try abd see if we can save our relationship because I love him so much. But don’t want to be lead on or used. It really breaks my heart that he just wants to be friends. I want nothing more to be in a relationship with him, but don’t want to hold him back either.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry this happened. It sounds like he never really put what happened during the breakup behind him. Why did he break up the first time? Was that ever resolved?

 

Give him complete space not friendship for now . Do you still live or work together?

We lived together, worked together and pretty much spent all of our time together. We then got back together again after this, a week into dating again, I told him what happened. he is now saying he wants to just be friends. And that he can’t get over what has happened. He wants to continue to act the way towards each other as we do at the moment. Just without affection and having a commitment to me.