I need my ex Back

[robin13]

My Ex initially just wanted a break for a week where we still would remain faithful to each other. I couldn't give this to her and 5 weeks later of pestering her every day telling her how much I loved her and have changed and wanted her back she just sad she doesn't want me or love me anymore. I cried and cried to her face and she just didn't seem to care. She's told everyone she will never get back with me and her friends said I should move on. Yet on Sunday she told me in a few months if she see's I have changed she might give it another go. I have started no contact, it's been two days. She agreed not to have sex with anyone else, albeit the reply was "okay lmao

" when I asked her not too. We were together for 4 years and the last 2 months consisted of pretty horrendous arguing.

[MissCanuck]

You need to let her go, for good.

 

I have a feeling she said she might give it another go down the road because she didn't know how else to make you stop. As for agreeing not to have sex with anyone else - don't count on that. She's single, and it will happen sooner or later. You don't have any right to ask her not to, for the record. She's not your girlfriend anymore.

 

It's time for you to accept the fact that this chapter has closed. You don't need her back - you will survive without her. But you will have to do it on your own and not expect her to make you feel better or help recover. You'll need to rely on your friends and family for that.

[hrb23]

My Ex initially just wanted a break for a week where we still would remain faithful to each other. I couldn't give this to her and 5 weeks later of pestering her every day telling her how much I loved her and have changed and wanted her back she just sad she doesn't want me or love me anymore. I cried and cried to her face and she just didn't seem to care. She's told everyone she will never get back with me and her friends said I should move on. Yet on Sunday she told me in a few months if she see's I have changed she might give it another go. I have started no contact, it's been two days. She agreed not to have sex with anyone else, albeit the reply was "okay lmao

" when I asked her not too. We were together for 4 years and the last 2 months consisted of pretty horrendous arguing.

 

You need help for your violent nature referenced yesterday. You can't have the relationship you want from a jail cell.

 

Figure that out and see where it gets you. (with or without said girl)

[Wiseman2]

You should be focusing on dating other girls and not in limbo with this string-along talk.

 

Her response doesn't sound like an agreement to the ridiculous suggestion that you remain committed after breaking up.

She agreed not to have sex with anyone else, albeit the reply was "okay lmao" when I asked her not too.

[robin13]

Update!!! We are going on a date next Saturday! 😬😬😬😬😬

[Wiseman2]

Don't get drunk or assault anyone this time, lol. What's the date about? To reconcile or just catch up?

My ex and I were in an abusive relationship. Last week I was at a club she was at and she was with a guy, I went back to her house and seen her coming home with him, I punched him in the face and had a total break down, the police were called and It was the lowest point in my life so far. shes 20 and I am 19.

[vesper]

Update!!! We are going on a date next Saturday! 

 

That is great news. Best Wishes !!

[robin13]

Wait... she said "🙄🙄🙄" when I asked her.. then i said "is that a yes?" She said "no!!" I said to her what is it then and she she said she had to go somewhere because she didn't have internet? What is she doing?

[robin13]

She only would reply to one question I ask her

[robin13]

Is she playing me and enjoying the attention? She just blocked me on instagram.... I liked her photo last night and said she looked beautiful? That was after I asked her on this date?

[Krankor]

Wait... she said "🙄🙄🙄" when I asked her.. then i said "is that a yes?" She said "no!!" I said to her what is it then and she she said she had to go somewhere because she didn't have internet? What is she doing?

I think you are missing the sarcasm detection gene.

 

This girl is done with you and is moving on. I know how hard it is but please just stay NC and let her go. Everything you are doing right now is just delaying the process of you getting over her. You aren't going to get her back so don't throw your dignity away in the hopeless pursuit of chasing her. If she ever does want you back, she knows where to find you, but that is extremely unlikely.

 

Do some work on yourself.

[Wiseman2]

What is that? The symbols don't appear.

she said "🙄🙄🙄" when I asked her..

[MissCanuck]

She didn't accept your invitation for a date.

 

She really doesn't want anything to do with you. I recall your other thread about her - you have to leave her alone.

[boltnrun]

You two were in an abusive relationship.

 

You punched her new date.

 

No, it doesn't seem like she agreed to go on a "date".

 

Why keep trying? Abusive relationships are not ones we should want to return to, no matter how exciting they are or how great the sex is.

[Wiseman2]

Sounds like she's thinking 'ugh! this guy just doesn't get it!'

She just blocked me on instagram.... I liked her photo last night and said she looked beautiful? That was after I asked her on this date?

[ChilliRed2013]

Robin13,

Big hugs sent your way. Most of the people on here have been through a similar trainwreck to what you're currently experiencing(to varying degrees and extremes) at some point. I know you are hurting right now, but... pleasepleasepleaseplease STOP thinking that you will somehow be able to win this girl back.

It. Is. Over.

There are no bandaids, no medicine. No miracle cures. The relationship is finished. Finalised. Completed. Done and dusted.

Time to mentally snap yourself out of the Denial and Negotiation(beg/plead/promises) and Anger. Enough is enough. Tell your brain to STOP With fantasy, and tell it to press PLAY with reality.

 

When you realise the reality, start posting in the 'Healing after Breakup and Divorce" section. Pay attention to what is posted/has been posted in the past. READ about others experiences. LEARN from your own mistakes, and be a sponge... soak up all the useful info that guides you towards being a better future 'you' in life and relationships. UNDERSTAND that you are not alone, and follow the breadcrumbs to eventual Acceptance.

 

TLDR; It's over. Stop, think, watch, learn, heal, your future awaits.

[Honeybal]

Everything you are doing is just driving her away. My ex husband kept trying to get me to change my mind about divorcing him and I remember just being irritated by everything he did. Whenever he talked I was hearing nails down a chalkboard. if you really love her, stop being selfish and give her what she wants, leave her alone!